So far as I'm concerned, Don't Ask, Don't Tell is a silly policy that has
caused the military no end of unnecessary headaches. In today's Army, where
Soldiers are expected to respect the cultural values of drug dealing
warlords who keep children as sex slaves, the idea that the men and women
of the military aren't mature enough to handle serving alongside openly gay
service members is nonsense. I've known a few gay Soldiers who were good
guys, and their sexuality had little or no affect on unit morale and
cohesion. No one really cared what they did in their private lives, and I
always felt bad for them for having to try and skirt the issue of their
personal lives in the professional environment.
That said, I draw a huge line of distinction between the kind of Soldiers I
served with and Soldiers who actively seek out discharge to make political
statements. 1LT Choi wasn't awkwardly found out and removed against his
will. His military service was less important to him then his politics, and
he decided to have himself removed to draw attention to the situation he
sought to bring onto himself.
The problem with 1LT Choi isn't who he is, it's his decision to announce
it. He's well within his rights under Don't Ask, Don't Tell to speak out
against the policy publicly, and to attend or lead gay advocacy protests.
What he can't do is publicly reveal his sexuality. It's a dumb policy. It's
also current policy, and a Soldier has no place ignoring or willfully
breaking military law because they don't like it and don't think it should
apply to them. If 1LT Choi didn't feel he could live within the constraints
of military regulations and laws, he never should have sworn an oath to do
so. He's not unfit to serve because he's gay. He's unfit to serve because
he found his personal life important enough to betray the commitment he
made to the American people to lead Soldiers. His motives don't forgive the
consequences of his actions.
There are few things as dangerous to military readiness as a Soldier who
disregards laws and orders because he doesn't like them. I feel exactly the
same about 1LT Choi's performance as I would if he had put on the uniform
and campaigned for a politician, or got on TV to announce he was sleeping
with an enlisted Soldier. He isn't someone who slipped up or made an
accidental mistake. He scheduled a TV interview on a popular news program
to draw as much attention as possible to himself as he disregarded military
regulations and broke his commitment to the Army. Now he is advocating his
politics at rallies in a uniform dirtied with props, a highly inappropriate
violation of several military regulations. If I had a leader with his
apparent priorities and poor conduct it would severely degrade my morale
and faith in his abilities.
Don't Ask, Don't Tell is going to be changed, and I have no problem with
that. Every Soldier and Marine I've discussed the issue with has the same
story about serving with gays who conducted themselves with the proper
military bearing. 1LT Choi has not carried himself in this manner. When the
day comes that this policy is changed, I very much hope that our
politicians have the wisdom to try to improve the military for gay service
members while simultaneously protecting it from those who have clearly
shown the inability to commit to the requirements of military life. I hope
that it's stipulated that service members who have behaved as 1LT Choi has
are barred from ever reentering the military.

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Reflections on the March
By John Wright | News Editor wright@dallasvoice.com
Oct 15, 2009 - 6:08:18 PM
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MardiGras Bandit
Oct 15, 2009 at 20:02
Oct 15, 2009 at 20:02
Jim
Oct 16, 2009 at 08:52
Oct 16, 2009 at 08:52
I think the March was so successful we should have them every month. When
we get enough people marching every month the government will give us our
rights.
Each month we would probably get 50,000 more people. People would notice us and it would make a huge difference.
Each month we would probably get 50,000 more people. People would notice us and it would make a huge difference.
Alex
Oct 16, 2009 at 09:48
Oct 16, 2009 at 09:48
Daniel - God sent his blessing to the March. Things ARE changing. People
need to come out and be visible. They need to demand respect in order to
get our full legal protections.
Pepe Johnson
Oct 16, 2009 at 13:37
Oct 16, 2009 at 13:37
"I hope that it's stipulated that service members who have behaved as 1LT
Choi has are barred from ever reentering the military."
That's a pretty nasty thing to say, Bandit. I understand the point you are trying to make and agree with you to some extent. But where would you draw the line? I came out to my commander - not on national television as 1LT Choi did - but through a letter I presented to him personally and quietly. Do you believe that anyone who came out voluntarily should be barred from future service? What criteria would you suggest for establishing who "behaved as 1LT Choi has"?
I didn't want to make a political statement when I came out, but it was something I felt I had to do with the situation I was facing at the time. In our current political climate every time a LGBT person comes out against a law such as "Don't Ask, Don't Tell," it is a political statement.
You make some good points in your post, but you won't be the one writing the bill to repeal "Don't Ask, Don't Tell." That will be left up to politicians, only some of whom have served in the military, none of whom have been discharged under DADT, and nearly all of whom will be looking to get reelected. That's a risky proposition.
Thank you for participating in the discussion, but we should be careful what we ask for 'cause we just might get it.
That's a pretty nasty thing to say, Bandit. I understand the point you are trying to make and agree with you to some extent. But where would you draw the line? I came out to my commander - not on national television as 1LT Choi did - but through a letter I presented to him personally and quietly. Do you believe that anyone who came out voluntarily should be barred from future service? What criteria would you suggest for establishing who "behaved as 1LT Choi has"?
I didn't want to make a political statement when I came out, but it was something I felt I had to do with the situation I was facing at the time. In our current political climate every time a LGBT person comes out against a law such as "Don't Ask, Don't Tell," it is a political statement.
You make some good points in your post, but you won't be the one writing the bill to repeal "Don't Ask, Don't Tell." That will be left up to politicians, only some of whom have served in the military, none of whom have been discharged under DADT, and nearly all of whom will be looking to get reelected. That's a risky proposition.
Thank you for participating in the discussion, but we should be careful what we ask for 'cause we just might get it.
Gregg Welpe
Oct 16, 2009 at 14:12
Oct 16, 2009 at 14:12
My most memorable part of the march weekend was the memorial to Leonard
Matlovich at Congressional Cemetery where a protest over DADT was held as
well. It was very enlightening to see and hear from the soldiers that have
been directly affected by this discriminatory military policy. We need to
end the witch hunt against our gay and lesbian soldiers. Especially when
they are needed now more than ever to combat terrorism around the world.
Repealing DADT is for the good of the armed forces, keeping it is
wrong.....
MardiGras Bandit
Oct 16, 2009 at 17:09
Oct 16, 2009 at 17:09
Pepe, based on what you admitted, I consider your actions to be a moral
failure to carry out the duty you chose for yourself. Without knowing the
details of your situation I can't make as specific a judgment on you as I
did about 1LT Choi, and I understand that variables such as active duty vs
reserve status, serving as an officer with greater leeway to leave vs
enlisted with no option to do so, etc, would likely influence the perceived
need to break your commitment to the military. As I see it though, the key
part of that sentence are the last six words. Whatever motives were, you
still abandoned the military and your service to the American people.
Would I let you back in? As you pointed out, that's a decision above my pay grade. The reason I feel so adamant about 1LT Choi being kicked out and kept out is the way in which he chose to have himself removed, and his actions after he did so. This isn't some guy with a boyfriend back home who got caught making out at the movies, or even someone such as yourself who (presumably) abandoned the military quietly. 1LT Choi willfully violated an oath he swore to follow in the most public manner he could and is using his military position to make both a political point and to try to tie the hands of his chain of command as they pursue disciplinary action against him. I found his tactics shameful from the first time I heard his story. I was disgusted when I watched him walk onto the stage to give a speech about politics in a uniform he had cheapened with protest props. When he spoke he spat on our military's noble tradition of separating itself from politics.
1LT Choi likes to talk about honor codes and honesty, but his actions don't back up his rhetoric. Where is the honor in abandoning the Soldiers he made a commitment to lead, and where is the honesty in taking up the challenge to serve the United States only to abandon that goal to advance a pet political cause? His behavior displays a lack of integrity and a warped sense of duty to hold himself to the commitments he undertook. They also betray disloyalty to the unit he maintains knew about his sexuality and was was supporting him. I'm deeply saddened to see the overwhelmingly sympathetic media coverage of his story because I feel it is ignoring the extreme military failings 1LT Choi has displayed, and this is coming from someone who largely agrees with him about Don't Ask, Don't Tell. I want him kept out of the service not just because he has violated DADT, but because the manner he chose to do it in shows he has failed to live up to the core Army values required from Soldiers.
Would I let you back in? As you pointed out, that's a decision above my pay grade. The reason I feel so adamant about 1LT Choi being kicked out and kept out is the way in which he chose to have himself removed, and his actions after he did so. This isn't some guy with a boyfriend back home who got caught making out at the movies, or even someone such as yourself who (presumably) abandoned the military quietly. 1LT Choi willfully violated an oath he swore to follow in the most public manner he could and is using his military position to make both a political point and to try to tie the hands of his chain of command as they pursue disciplinary action against him. I found his tactics shameful from the first time I heard his story. I was disgusted when I watched him walk onto the stage to give a speech about politics in a uniform he had cheapened with protest props. When he spoke he spat on our military's noble tradition of separating itself from politics.
1LT Choi likes to talk about honor codes and honesty, but his actions don't back up his rhetoric. Where is the honor in abandoning the Soldiers he made a commitment to lead, and where is the honesty in taking up the challenge to serve the United States only to abandon that goal to advance a pet political cause? His behavior displays a lack of integrity and a warped sense of duty to hold himself to the commitments he undertook. They also betray disloyalty to the unit he maintains knew about his sexuality and was was supporting him. I'm deeply saddened to see the overwhelmingly sympathetic media coverage of his story because I feel it is ignoring the extreme military failings 1LT Choi has displayed, and this is coming from someone who largely agrees with him about Don't Ask, Don't Tell. I want him kept out of the service not just because he has violated DADT, but because the manner he chose to do it in shows he has failed to live up to the core Army values required from Soldiers.
Josh
Oct 17, 2009 at 11:35
Oct 17, 2009 at 11:35
We should March in Washington every month. It has already forced Obama
into action. We should have been marching all these years - it gets
results.
















