Girl on girls

Posted on 24 Feb 2017 at 7:25am

Jenny Block makes getting your freak on a political statement

_jennyblock_book_stephgrant_web-10The time to have more sex is now. The time to relish, to pleasure seek, to kiss and hug and hold hands and dance slow and fuck hard is now. Right now. Things are scary out there. They’re precarious and dangerous and hateful and unpredictable and we have to balance the scales with some serious good and not add to the incredibly bad.

At first — right after the election, I mean — the state of the world left me not only not wanting to indulge in pleasure, but also feeling as if it wasn’t OK, that maybe it was even downright wrong, to enjoy anything … as if relishing anything implied somehow that everything was normal, or that things weren’t as bad as they seemed. Feeling good was somehow bad karma. If I was happy, then the world would lash out and remind me to be sad.

But that crazy and fatalistic view is exactly what the bad guys want: to get us to stop living our lives and start living by their lies. That’s the definition of terrorism — using intimidation and violence against the public to forward political aims. They want us still and afraid and suffering so that we see no choice but to follow their nefarious lead. The hate. The violence. The lies. Every inch of what the current administration is up to is about making us afraid to live our lives.

Well, fuck that.

One of the most powerful ways to protest the hate and the lies is to live the love and the truth.

So I’ve gotten over my initial reaction to the election of Forty-Five and have decided instead to do exactly what the powers that be don’t want me to do. I’m seeking pleasure. Sexual and otherwise. I’m considering hedonism my spirit guide. I’m eating chocolate. I’m laughing at bad jokes. I’m sitting in the sun. I’m masturbating. I’m sinking my toes in the sand. I’m letting the sun sink into my skin. But most importantly, I’m loving my fiancé Robin. I’m kissing her every chance I get. I’m holding her hand in public. I’m having sex with her and enjoying it more than ever, because I know it’s exactly what Forty-Five and his minions don’t want me to do. I’m reminding myself every moment I get that pleasure and my pursuit of it is my right and my responsibility.

It’s my right to live my life and it’s my responsibility to put on my oxygen mask first before helping others. Pleasure is self-care. The world needs saving right now. But the only way we’re going to be able to do it is if we save ourselves first. They want to break us down, make us feel guilty for being for we are and for loving who and what we love. They want us desperate. But pleasure feeds us. And now is the time to be well-fed.

Orgasm is particularly important now. It helps us sleep. It aids in the fight against depression and anxiety. It combats headaches. You’re brushing your teeth, right? You’re washing your face, aren’t you? You’re taking your vitamins or meds I bet. Well, orgasm needs to be part of your regime. Pleasure needs to be on your list of keeping yourself ready, willing and able to fight the good fight.

It’s far more difficult to overcome a nation of people who are holding fast to their commitment to self-care then those who aren’t. We cannot allow ourselves to become fatigued by the fight.

They don’t want me to exercise my rights. They don’t want me to live in my body. They don’t want me to experience the world. They don’t want me to make my own decisions or listen to my own mind or know and live and abide by the truth no matter how many times or in how many different ways they tell me it isn’t the truth. But I am going to do all of those things. I’m not going to get dumber. I’m going to get smarter.

This is an insanely difficult time. The world is in intense unrest. We are left with only one question: Will we continue to live or will we let them kill us, if not literally then figuratively?

I know what I’m going to do. I’m going to live. I’m going to live really hard. I’m going to sing off-key at the top of my lungs to my favorite songs. I’m going to go to the theater with my love. I’m going to go to the art museum with my dad. I’m going to eat sushi with my mom. I’m going to cry at sappy movies with my daughter. And I’m going to orgasm myself into fighting shape. I’m going to live.

What I am not going to do is let it rip apart my relationship or erode the love I live for. I’m not going to stop having sex and making out and goofing off and being Robin’s girl. Divide and conquer is all played out and I’m not playing.

So sign the petitions and make the calls and run for office and vote and march every chance you get. We have to keep doing all the things and we have to do them more than ever.

We also have to love. We have to love and love and love and love. We have to love and kiss and hug and play and fuck. And, you know, truth be told, at least a little part of me truly believes that Forty-Five is destroyed just a little every time any one of us enjoys stellar gay sex. Fucking just might be the best way of all to tell Forty-Five to fuck off.

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This article appeared in the Dallas Voice print edition February 24, 2017.


Best Bets • 02-24-17

Posted on 23 Feb 2017 at 11:10pm

Thursday 03.02 — Sunday 03.05


Uptown Players takes on showtunes with Broadway Our Way

There are a lot of great fundraisers out there — fashion shows, cocktail parties, beer bashes, dinner-and-dessert feasts, fancy affairs and low-key ones. But few are as outright entertaining as Uptown Players’ annual fundraiser, Broadway Our Way. A full-on show featuring some of the top singing, dancing and comedic talent in North Texas, BOW is a revue of musical numbers from Broadway’s songbook, only this time the girls sing the boys’ parts and vice-versa. It also previews the rest of UP’s season and gets you dibs on season tickets. B.J. Cleveland, Coy Covington and a host of others will delight you.

DEETS: Kalita Humphreys Theater,
3636 Turtle Creek Blvd.

Tuesday 02.28


Terry D. Loftis to give a ‘standard’ cabaret at Fair Park

When we say Terry D. Loftis has standards, we mean both an ethical compass and a catalogue of songs from the Great American Songbook. Nat King Cole. Sammy Davis Jr. If it has a classy vibe, Loftis is all over it. In fact, that may be why he named his upcoming cabaret performance at the Women’s Building at Fair Park Clas, Style & Juice. The juice, by the way, refers to Scotch whisky. Cuz what’s a cabaret singer without a little booze on hand? And to sweeten the juice, it’s free!

DEETS: Women’s Building at Fair Park,
3800 Parry Ave. 7:30–9:30 p.m. Free.

This article appeared in the Dallas Voice print edition February 24, 2017.


Singers shine in ‘Boys Do Babs’

Posted on 22 Feb 2017 at 2:24pm

This isn’t so much a review of Boys Do Babs — the Barbra Streisand tribute performed by members of the Turtle Creek Chorale on Saturday, Feb. 18 — as it is a suggestion.

And, by the way, I realize when Chorale Artistic Director Sean Baugh hears “a suggestion” from me, his reaction has to be, “Oh crap, what now?” Last time it resulted in my wedding.

This one’s simple. First: Boys Do Babs was so successful, it has to be followed up by Boys Do Bette. Second: It needs to run two consecutive Saturdays because Babs was a standing-room-only, standing-ovation hit.

The Turtle Creek Chorale hasn’t done anything like this in years. The event was a casual cabaret at 7 for Parties. Drinks. Mingling. A show that traced Streisand’s career from early TV and her Broadway shows to her movies and recording career. Paul Williams emceed with tongue firmly in cheek and then, just when you wondered what he had up his sleeve for the finale, he delivered a wonderful Judy Garland-Streisand duet with popular Chorale soloist Jodi Crawford Wright.

Eight-member Chorale group Camarata carried much of show, singing together and in solos and duets. Colby Geyer and Alvarho Ramalho’s duet of “Guilty” brought down the house. So did solos by Brian Scott Carey, Chris Doubet, Stephen Sanchez, Eric Ramsey and Daryl Curry.

Boys Do Babs was simply fun. Don’t let this be the last thing the Boys Do outside the concert hall. And don’t limit the number of people who can see it. Congratulations to Associate Conductor and Principal Accompanist Scott Ayers who did a wonderful job of putting the show together.

Photos courtesy Michael McGary.


DVtv: Impulse Dallas’ 2nd anniversary party

Posted on 22 Feb 2017 at 1:15pm

Impulse Dallas, a group of socially active gay men working in collaboration with AIDS Healthcare Foundation (AHF) to promote healthier sexual lifestyles by promoting the conversation on prevention and safer sex though social events, education and outreach in the Dallas gay community, recently celebrated its second anniversary — and DVtv was there.

DVtv host Brad Pritchett, joined by videographer Trenton Warwick, brings you this look at the party.


‘Kurios:’ Holy chitty-chitty bang-bang!

Posted on 22 Feb 2017 at 9:43am

The cool thing about Cirque du Soleil shows is they are all completely different and totally the same. There are costumes and contortionists and clowns, music and musclemen, jokes and juggling. But what sells each show is not just the energy and the style and the wow-factor, but the talents of the individual artists. Think you know how to spin a Yo-Yo? Watch someone who gets paid to do and you’ll probably feel like you’re auditioning right after Meryl Streep.

The latest from CdS, Kurios — Cabinet of Curiosities (now through March 26 at Lone Star Park) is as dazzling as you’d expect; if the gauge the successful of a show is how many times you shout out “Holy shit!” then this one is NC-17.

The concept is glamorously retro — a steampunk street fair populated by men (and, I think, a few women) with pencil-thin moustaches and Brilliantine-slicked hair, aviator-goggled daredevils and women in long gloves and velvet gowns (including one who stands barely 2 feet tall). It’s like Terry Gilliam’s Brazil come to life onstage.

Holding it all together is a protean master of ceremonies, who conducts a flea circus or invisible acts, woos a woman in the audience with animal impersonations (among them a T-rex — and he weighs about 90 lbs.) and generally goofs like the reincarnation of Charlie Chaplin.

He’s a wonderful ringmaster, but hardly the only delight. There’s also the tandem Russian strap artists (two well-muscled acrobats whose act is beautiful and kinda sexy), a quartet of contortionists who, paradoxically, seem made of both rubber and steel; trampolinists who soar so high they could be regulated by the FAA. There’s a lot of creativity at work here; the chair-climbing act (a staple of Cirque) is modified so that the artist not only climbs up, but another climbs down; a hand-puppet act that makes clever use of the camera; and inventive sound effects. There were only a handful of acts that didn’t astonish me, and they were mostly early on. But it’s the entire experience — the big top, the popcorn, the red carpet — that set Cirque du Soleil apart from an ordinary performance. It really does feel like magic.


Folkerth releases single

Posted on 20 Feb 2017 at 1:29pm

Eric Folkerth

The Rev. Eric Folkerth of Northaven United Methodist Church released a new single today. “Your Full Height” was inspired by the Women’s Marches, the airport protests and other demonstrations that he’s participated in over the past few weeks, although he says it’s not a protest song.

“It’s been an honor to stand alongside women, Muslim, Immigrants, and LGBTQ friends, as they stand up to their full height these past weeks,” Folkerth wrote on Facebook. “Not so much a protest song, as a song for the protestors.”

The song is available for download on iTunes and can be previewed on his blog.


Preview the Oscar contenders tonight at the Magnolia

Posted on 20 Feb 2017 at 6:33am

The Academy Awards will be presented next Sunday, and you probably have your favorites. But what are their chances with the only people who matter — the academy voters? Once again, the Magnolia Theatre in the West Village is hosting a panel discussion of the likely winners in all the major categories. And it’s all free. Just show up by 7 p.m. at the Magnolia and sit n. Oh, and I’ll be one of the panelists!


Cocktail Friday: Happy National Margarita Day!

Posted on 17 Feb 2017 at 3:18pm

The Sex and the City girls have their cosmos, but in Texas, it’s the margarita that we worship more. It’s so Texasy — potent, tequila-centric and diverse. National Margarita Day is on Feb. 22 (right after Taco Tuesday — good thinkin’!), and are restaurants are celebrating with their own specials and specialties. Area Del Frisco’s Grilles (including Uptown) will be offering their pomegranate marg (made with Camarena reposado) for $6 during happy hour. Cantina Laredo in Addison serves its Perfect Patron Rita, pictured, Saturday–Thursday for $8 (and will even hold a tequila dinner on Feb. 23). Hopdoddy burgers is selling thweir signature margs for $5, from the classic frozen to the doble fina. There’s even a new restaurant, T. Blanco’s Mexican Cantina in Addison, that opens on Feb. 22 with a ribbon cutting and margarita toast.

Be sure to find your favorite marg on Wednesday and toast the signature tequila cocktail … before a wall with Mexico and a tax makes them difficult to secure.


John Tesar packs his knives on ‘Top Chef’ finale

Posted on 17 Feb 2017 at 10:02am

Dallas chef John Tesar made it all the way to the Top Chef finale, only to get booted just before the end.

Part 1 of the 2-part finale of the cooking competition series aired last night, with the three finalists — also including Sheldon and Shirley — were joined by recently-eliminated chef Brooke to pair a tequila cocktail with a local Mexican dish. (Most of the season was set in Charleston, S.C., but the finale moved south of the border.) Tesar, who runs the steakhouse Knife in The Highland, was critiqued for making a too-plain margarita in the challenge that overwhelmed his caldo.

This was his second stint on the show — this season pitted veterans with newcomers. The finale was comprised entirely of veterans (and only one newcomer even made it to the top 8). Tesar did much better this time.

Now I’m rooting for Sheldon.

Oh, and the episode where they has to make margaritas aired less than a week before National Margarita Day. Come back to InstanTea later today for places to check out for a good marg this week. And maybe ask for one at Knife as well.


Come see Dallas’ best beards (no, Tom Cruise’s girlfriend is not among them)

Posted on 16 Feb 2017 at 1:59pm

Brent Baxter is a local photographer who decided about two years ago to do a book about Dallas men and their great facial hair. The project was such a success, last year he decided to put out a 2017 edition. The Best Beards in Dallas Vol. 2 includes about 20 local North Texans in all their bearish bushiness … and among them is… well, me. Now, look — no one is thinking of me as a replacement for ZZTop. But as Brent said, it’s not all about the beard, but the man who wears it. Hey, I can deal with that.

You can pick up a copy of the book, meet some of those profiled in it (including yours truly) and enjoy a party with live music, all at once. The event starts as the doors open at 6 p.m. at The Rustic Saturday, with the show starting around 8 p.m. Admission is free, and you can RSVP here. Hope to see you there!