Before and After Gay

Posted on 22 Aug 2014 at 7:30am

Coming out is a right of passage both universal and unique Coming out is a right of passage for gay men and women — an experience as nearly universal as it is unique for each person. The process invariably began with the moment where the journey from self-discovery to self-awareness finally coalesces in self-acceptance and [...]

A survival guide for the gay pool party

Posted on 15 Aug 2014 at 7:40am

Remember guys: It’s not about the pool! The gay pool party is like a red carpet, blind date and job interview all rolled into one treacherous venture but disguised as a casual social gathering. It’s also one of the consistently major events in the entire gay social calendar. There are many potential pitfalls, and it [...]

Battling the Trickster

Posted on 15 Aug 2014 at 7:35am

Meditation can help in the struggle against depression Like so many others this week, I find myself mourning the loss of Robin Williams. It crept up on me Tuesday afternoon while I wasn’t looking: “Ha ha ha! Here is your nausea.” Ugh. It is rare that the death of an actor affects my feelings so [...]

Moving from indifference to action

Posted on 08 Aug 2014 at 7:55am

Recently the world saw a brave and compassionate local elected official take a stand for refugee children. And in a few ugly photo-ops, we saw groups of white Americans with ugly signs and ugly words — “Return to Sender” being among the most egregious — take a stand against the same refugee children. A person’s actions [...]

It ain’t all about you

Posted on 01 Aug 2014 at 7:35am

When someone transitions, so, in a way, do their friends and families Having just celebrated my 39th birthday for the umpteenth time, I figured some reflection was due. A lot has happened in the last couple of years since I came out as transgender — on my birthday in 2012. Who the hell comes out [...]

Staying safe as you age

Posted on 25 Jul 2014 at 8:10am

It takes planning, paperwork and more to make sure that LGBT elders are safe and happy At the Resource Center’s United Black Ellument Health Fair in April, I picked up a flyer from FORGE, an organization with which I was not familiar. Entitled “Safety Planning with Transgender Clients,” the document astonished me. It also made [...]

Call it what it is

Posted on 18 Jul 2014 at 7:45am

‘Religious exemption’ is really ‘religious privilege’ We have been oh so careful. How many times have we assured religious leaders that marriage equality will not mean that Catholic priests will have to start performing marriages between two lesbians? How many times have we bit our lip when a religious school has fired a gay person [...]

Thoughtfulness in crisis

Posted on 18 Jul 2014 at 7:40am

Republicans must take action instead of misplacing blame We are in the midst of a humanitarian crisis that has left more than 52,000 children, many without their parents, in limbo at America’s borders. Texas, along with other southwestern border states, has experienced an influx of undocumented immigrants. It is during these times that we all [...]

If it’s not gay, do we care?

Posted on 11 Jul 2014 at 7:45am

It’s time for the LGBT community to stand up for others as others have stood up for us In the almost eight years I’ve been out, I’ve marveled at the pace equality — and equity — for gays and lesbians have evolved. In addition to winning numerous court victories, rejoicing at the death of DOMA [...]

Democrats’ ‘Texas Promise’ includes LGBTQ community

Posted on 03 Jul 2014 at 7:05pm

Stonewall Caucus received a warm welcome at the Texas Democratic Convention The LGBTQ community is used to being left out of the “bright future” that the Texas Republican Party talks about. This year Texas Republicans denied Log Cabin Republicans a booth at the Texas Republican Convention, and delegates once again voted to spread misinformation about [...]