Reclaiming our joy

Posted on 19 Sep 2014 at 7:30am

We’ve been through so much and the struggle continues. But we can’t forget to truly celebrate ourselves and our community   I didn’t sleep much that night. The sounds of my three roommates snoring and having sex kept me awake — well, that and the excitement of the event we were about to attend made [...]

Trans in the job market: Why we need ENDA

Posted on 12 Sep 2014 at 7:45am

I remember vividly a conversation I had with a longtime friend and mentor in the radio business. She had come out as transgender some 20 years ago, and when I shared with her that I was on a similar path she offered these words of encouragement and warning: “You work for probably the best company [...]

No place for anti-bi bigotry

Posted on 05 Sep 2014 at 8:20am

Gays and lesbians have faced enough discrimination to know better than to delegitimize the experience and identity of bisexuals Within the big LGBT tent, there are myriad strong and specific spaces and groups for lesbians, gay men and — even more so lately — transgender individuals who wish to avail themselves of the opportunity to [...]

Divided, indifferent: Hate Prevails

Posted on 29 Aug 2014 at 8:00am

Matthew was tied to a fence in rural Wyoming after being pistol-whipped and tortured — left to die. The moment we heard about his death, long before it was ever classified as a hate crime, in the very pits of our stomachs we knew that’s exactly what it was. But some voices, apparently unfazed by [...]

Before and After Gay

Posted on 22 Aug 2014 at 7:30am

Coming out is a right of passage both universal and unique Coming out is a right of passage for gay men and women — an experience as nearly universal as it is unique for each person. The process invariably began with the moment where the journey from self-discovery to self-awareness finally coalesces in self-acceptance and [...]

A survival guide for the gay pool party

Posted on 15 Aug 2014 at 7:40am

Remember guys: It’s not about the pool! The gay pool party is like a red carpet, blind date and job interview all rolled into one treacherous venture but disguised as a casual social gathering. It’s also one of the consistently major events in the entire gay social calendar. There are many potential pitfalls, and it [...]

Battling the Trickster

Posted on 15 Aug 2014 at 7:35am

Meditation can help in the struggle against depression Like so many others this week, I find myself mourning the loss of Robin Williams. It crept up on me Tuesday afternoon while I wasn’t looking: “Ha ha ha! Here is your nausea.” Ugh. It is rare that the death of an actor affects my feelings so [...]

Moving from indifference to action

Posted on 08 Aug 2014 at 7:55am

Recently the world saw a brave and compassionate local elected official take a stand for refugee children. And in a few ugly photo-ops, we saw groups of white Americans with ugly signs and ugly words — “Return to Sender” being among the most egregious — take a stand against the same refugee children. A person’s actions [...]

It ain’t all about you

Posted on 01 Aug 2014 at 7:35am

When someone transitions, so, in a way, do their friends and families Having just celebrated my 39th birthday for the umpteenth time, I figured some reflection was due. A lot has happened in the last couple of years since I came out as transgender — on my birthday in 2012. Who the hell comes out [...]

Staying safe as you age

Posted on 25 Jul 2014 at 8:10am

It takes planning, paperwork and more to make sure that LGBT elders are safe and happy At the Resource Center’s United Black Ellument Health Fair in April, I picked up a flyer from FORGE, an organization with which I was not familiar. Entitled “Safety Planning with Transgender Clients,” the document astonished me. It also made [...]