Gays in the South need an ENDA

Posted on 02 May 2014 at 7:35am

Mayor Earl Bullard of Latta, S.C. fires lesbian police chief for being lesbian, because in 28 states, including Texas, there aren’t protections Here’s a hypothetical situation for you: Let’s say you’ve been the mayor for less than a year of a little town in South Carolina called Latta. We’re talking 1,400 people, so everybody is [...]

DMN: Welcome to the party (P.S. Took you long enough)

Posted on 25 Apr 2014 at 6:45am

Dear Dallas Morning News, I noted with interest your launch, earlier this week, of LGBTQ Blog, your still-difficult-to-find online column dedicated to gay voices. (How much did the consultants charge you to come up with such a catchy name?) To this, I say, “Bravo!” But as an editor for a publication nearing its 30th anniversary [...]

At least I’m not a lumberjack like my great-grandfather

Posted on 18 Apr 2014 at 7:55am

Apparently the only thing worse than what I’m doing right now is chopping down trees. I guess bad career moves run in my family   According to CareerCast, out of 200 jobs, newspaper reporter ranks 199, just ahead of lumberjack at 200. The website used data from the Bureau of Labor Statistics to compile its [...]

Fired up

Posted on 11 Apr 2014 at 8:15am

We should stand taller and prouder in the face of homophobia and know it has nothing to do with us A friend of mine — I’ll call him Thomas — was just fired from a large, prominent Dallas corporation for being gay. He was told that the people he worked with were uncomfortable with him [...]

But you don’t look like a lesbian

Posted on 04 Apr 2014 at 8:05am

Really? Wow! Just what does a lesbian look like, anyway? “Hey,” I said to the woman who sat on the bar stool next to mine at NoNo’s in San Juan, Puerto Rico. “Hey,” she replied. “Are you on the Carnival Cruise?” “No,” I said, shaking my head. “We’re on the Olivia cruise with you.” “Really? [...]

What comes first, the sex or the relationship?

Posted on 28 Mar 2014 at 8:05am

No matter how many “how-to” dating guides you devour or how many “cardinal rules” your best friends divulge, the first date with a potential mate is always a total crapshoot. You may think you have it down — the right questions to ask, the right answers to give and the perfect way to leave him [...]

Smarmy is the new black

Posted on 21 Mar 2014 at 9:00am

Act like you know everything, especially when you don’t, and you might even get a job on Fox I’ve decided being “smarmy” is in. Well, maybe it’s always been in, but I’m slow to catch on to fads. When platform shoes were in during the 70s, I was wearing boots. When boots were in, I [...]

‘Do you have to be soooo gay?’

Posted on 14 Mar 2014 at 7:55am

The point of the rainbow should be that all colors are welcome I was recently asked this question by someone who genuinely loves and cares about me but perceives that my behavior, social media commentary and the subjects I publicly obsess over all seem to be gay and gay-focused. The contrarian in me wanted to [...]

If CBS knows a reason these 2 people shouldn’t be joined

Posted on 07 Mar 2014 at 8:05am

Before the Rev. Bill McElvaney had George Harris and Jack Evans exchange rings and have them do “whatever public display of affection you’re comfortable with,” he didn’t ask, “If anyone knows any reason these two people should not be married, speak now or forever hold your peace.” However, CBS-11 found someone to object. All of [...]

States of hate

Posted on 28 Feb 2014 at 8:35am

Doing the right thing is not the same as being on the right side of history During the fourth season finale of Downton Abbey, Mrs. Levinson (Shirley MacLaine), the American mother of Lady Grantham, having endured the snipes of the Dowager Countess (Maggie Smith) for days, finally snaps. In a measured voice, Mrs. Levinson turns [...]