HIV is not the enemy

Posted on 31 Jul 2015 at 8:05am

Please don’t be afraid of HIV. It doesn’t deserve it, and you deserve better. Don’t get me wrong: I’m not anti-fear. I’ve got a whole mess of fears myself — of failure, of illness, of crossing the hectic street outside my office in Manhattan. I’ve got fear pretty down pat. Heck, it’s even healthy. Fear [...]

Rape and good times!

Posted on 24 Jul 2015 at 8:00am

I was heartened when Baylor University recently dropped its policy prohibiting “homosexual activity.” So nice the school is moving slowly into the 20th century as the rest of us fly through the 21st. But that announcement that gave me pause to reflect on my brief academic career in Waco. Looking back on my college days [...]

A quiet victory

Posted on 17 Jul 2015 at 8:05am

  In a recent TED Talk, transgender model Geena Rocero referred to her driver’s license with the corrected name and gender not as a license to drive — but a license to live! I’m continually surprised by the number of people who aren’t even aware that your driver’s license identifies you with the gender binary [...]

Mortality is a bitch

Posted on 10 Jul 2015 at 7:55am

Getting to the heart of the matter after a health scare Mortality is a bitch. Having survived the 1980s and, by some twist of fate, not acquiring HIV/AIDS, I felt that I had somehow cheated fate. Once The Epidemic began, I figured I would end up checking out sometime in my mid 40s, if I [...]

The fight isn’t over

Posted on 03 Jul 2015 at 8:30am

An open letter to the LGBT/same-gender-loving community What a WEEK we have had! After the monumental Supreme Court decision on June 26 legalizing same-gender marriage in all 50 states, emotions run the gamut — from extreme elation to contemplation over what the future holds for us individually and collectively, to, in some instances, anger over [...]

Family matters

Posted on 26 Jun 2015 at 8:10am

Put aside the myth of ‘traditional marriage’ AND the myth that SCOTUS can solve all our problems The Supreme Court decision on same-sex marriage will undoubtedly bring some cheers, and some jeers. Needless to say, the LGBT community will celebrate and those on the far right will gnash their teeth and rend their garments. One [...]

The Father’s Day I should have seen coming

Posted on 19 Jun 2015 at 8:25am

Growing up in Southern California, I idolized my dad. He was everything I wasn’t. He was bigger than life. He was a gentle giant. He was our protector. Father’s Day was a day to honor him but he always turned it into a fun day for us. He didn’t want a lot of fuss over [...]

‘Fabulously and wonderfully made’

Posted on 19 Jun 2015 at 8:20am

Celebrate Pride month by finding pride in yourself, then sharing with others Growing up in church, I was familiar with the verse from the Psalms: “… I am fearfully and wonderfully made.” But most of my life I did not believe it about myself. Despite the things about me that were good — including those [...]

Losing sleep while waiting for SCOTUS

Posted on 19 Jun 2015 at 8:15am

We are on the verge of marriage equality, but that doesn’t mean the fight is over As we move further into June, the days get longer. That’s science — the tilt of the earth’s axis. But, I noticed the nights seem to be getting longer, too, which seems to be caused by my obsession over [...]

Real progress. Real Pride

Posted on 12 Jun 2015 at 7:40am

June Pride means so many different things to different people. For many, it’s just a symbol of the LGBT movement for equality — how far we’ve come and all the work left to do. For others, it’s an actual event, a real celebration of who we are, where we’ve been, where we’re going. At Dallas [...]