Former Arkansas governor and former Republican presidential candidate Mike Huckabee recently held forth on gay and lesbian parenting, and even took the time to once again disparage same-sex marriage, in an interview with a student journalist for The Perspective, the magazine for the College of New Jersey.
Children, Huackbee reminded everyone, are not puppies, and same-sex marriage is “not necessary.”
Huckabee was reiterating his support for an Arkansas law that prohibits same-sex couples from adopting children or becoming foster parents. He said: “I think this is not about trying to create statements for people who want to change the basic fundamental definitions of family. Children are not puppies. This is not a time to see if we can experiment and find out, how does this work?”
He also equated same-sex marriage to drug use, incest abnd polygamy, saying: “You don’t go ahead and accommodate every behavioral pattern that is against the ideal. That would be like saying, well, there are a lot of people who like to use drugs, so let’s go ahead and accommodate those who want who use drugs. There are some people who believe in incest, so we should accommodate them. There are people who believe in polygamy, so we should accommodate them.”
I can’t imagine anyone being surprised by this. I mean, it’s the same-old same-old from the anti-gay right-wingers who will do and say anything to maintain their credentials with their anti-gay base or rile that base up with the threat of the LGBT boogeyman to spur donations.
So while I am not surprised anymore, I continue to be outraged. As a gay parent, I can assure Mr. Huckabee and others like him that raising my children is not an experiment. My wife and I are certainly not perfect parents, but we do our best every day to make sure that our children are happy, healthy and well-cared for. Why? Not because our home is a science lab and we want to see what happens, but because we are their parents, and we love them. We want the best for them.
And I can guarantee Mr. Huckabee — and the others like him — that my marriage is no experiment either. It was as “necessary” as his marriage. My wife and I were married because we wanted to make that same commitment to each other that other couples choose to make — to love, honor, care for, support and enjoy each other, til death do us part.
I am not asking Huckabee to “accommodate” me and my marriage. I am telling him he needs to sit down, shut up and get out of my way. The only thing I require of the government is that it acknowledge my marriage and treat it equally with any other marriage.