Responding to comments on the blog

Posted on 18 Nov 2008 at 3:48pm

Each day, at least once, I read through all the new comments that have been added to the blog. And I have to say I am impressed, although not really surprised, by the comments that have been generated by the posts about the protests at First Baptist Church.

Religion is a very emotional topic. And when people get emotional, they want to speak out.

I am happy to see that people who are apparently members of First Baptist Church of Dallas, or who at least agree with Rev. Jeffress’ beliefs on homosexuality, are reading the blog and responding through comments. You can’t have a real dialog without all sides represented.

But I have to say this: Some of these people really need to step outside their box and learn something new. And the first thing I wish they would learn is that being gay is not a “lifestyle.”

A lifestyle is how much money you make and how much you spend; what kind of car you drive; what kind of house you live in and where it is located and how it is furnished; where you go on vacation; how you spend your evenings and weekends. Things like that are “lifestyle” issues.

For instance, here are some facts about my “lifestyle:” I drive a 10-year-old car that I bought from my wife’s grandmother. My wife drives a minivan. Our house was built in the mid-1950s and is just big enough for my wife and I, our two children and our two dogs. It’s in a nice neighborhood, but not an expensive neighborhood. When we get the chance to go on vacation, it is usually to spend time with family who live elsewhere. We spend our evenings helping the kids with homework and watching TV and going to the gym. We spend our weekends hanging out with the kids and visiting with friends and family and cleaning house and doing laundry.

Nothing real exotic about that lifestyle, if you ask me. Nothing ungodly or sinful about it. Just your average, everyday, garden-variety family of four doing our best to be happy and healthy.

That’s “lifestyle.”

Sexual orientation — that’s different. My sexual orientation is an integral part of my genetic makeup. It’s the way I was born. I did not choose to be gay. I did choose to accept and acknowledge that part of who I am, and I choose every day not to let anyone make me feel I am less than human, less than worthy or less than deserving of equality because of who I am.

People need to learn the different between choice and a fact of nature. Me being gay is a fact of nature. You being Baptist is a choice.

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