Anthony Weiner and America’s closet

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When Anthony Weiner was exposed for showing his “Little Oscar” in a text message, the press had a field day.

Granted, a lot of it was because of his name and the all-too-obvious puns, but a lot of it has to do with our double standard we have in this country. We live by one standard and are incensed by the invasion of privacy when someone talks about our sexual adventures, but for politicians, it’s open season!

Now let me clarify something. I am not talking about closeted public servants who actively work to suppress the rights of one sexual minority while secretly engaging in the same practice. Because of their hypocrisy I think that makes them fair game. The same holds true for candidates who claim high moral ground, opining about the “sanctity of marriage” and parade under the banners of “family values,” only to engage in serial affairs and get caught with their pants down, sometimes literally!

I am talking about this illusion we have that our politicians are somehow above sex. We as a country seem to believe that sex is some sort of dirty activity and politicians should be chaste. We treat them like priests, but if recent news shows anything, even priests are not chaste.

The whole thing boils down to our country’s strange attitude toward sex in general. We can’t seem to talk about it like adults and we treat the subject with snide remarks or adolescent humor rather than take it seriously. The truth is we are all engaging in sex one way or another, so what is the big deal?

—  Hardy Haberman

Anthony, your weiner isn’t that big a deal

The original Weiner photo (above) has been followed by an X-rated one that can be viewed here (NSFW).

After days of hearing about U.S. Rep. Anthony Weiner, D-New York, tweeting a picture of his underwear-clad erect penis to a female Seattle college student, I was delighted to finally see what had stirred up all the commotion.

I’m disappointed to report that my reaction to the picture was decidedly anti-climatic as it frankly requires a lot of imagination to visualize anything remotely stimulating about the picture. No offense intended, Anthony, but I’m surprised you would send anything that unimpressive out into the electronic stratosphere. Frankly, I was more interested in looking for a label to determine what brand of underwear you buy.

It would of course been better if Weiner had initially owned up to the picture being one of him rather than suggesting he had somehow been framed, but maybe he was embarrassed to acknowledge that he makes a rather less-than-spectacular impact. I’ve seen more exciting pictures in the International Male clothing catalog.

The truth is that I’ve also seen far sexier images posted on Facebook by some muscular straight men I know. And as far as I what I’ve seen of gay men’s photos on the electronic media, I won’t even go there. I don’t pay quite as close attention to what my straight female and lesbian friends are posting so I won’t comment on that either.

In the end, the ultimate deal is that it’s just not that big of an event. There are a lot of people out there who think it’s just a harmless diversion. I don’t engage in it because at my age I suffer from no illusions about whether anyone wants to see provocative pictures of me.

Weiner, a married man, has confessed now to engaging in inappropriate electronic relationships with six women over three years. This has sparked a debate about whether these type of relationships that involve no physical contact amount to cheating. I’d say that’s between Weiner and his wife, and not really the business of anyone else.

Now a photo is circulating on the Internet that purportedly is one of Weiner’s manhood fully exposed and standing at attention, providing a little more for critics to sink their teeth in, so to speak. Again, I’ve seen more scintillating images in my time, and I don’t know how anyone is going to prove it is him. That is unless of course he goes to confession again. The truth is that literally no one tells the whole truth about their sex lives.

If Weiner was a Bible-thumping conservative preaching against such activities and condemning any type of relations outside of heterosexual marriage, then he would need to be exposed for being a fraud. As it is, I think he’s just doing what millions of other people are doing who are not suffering any repercussions from their activities.

Sometimes people can become obsessed with electronic relationships, including texting, phone sex and viewing porn. I think it only becomes a problem when those activities began to interfere with people enjoying personal relationships with other people. But again, that’s a personal decision that each person must make for themselves.

The bottom line is that I don’t think Weiner should resign. Believe me, Anthony, the image of your you-know-what is going to fade from the scene in a pretty big hurry. It’s just not that memorable.

—  admin