GLBT Broadway pre-show chat at ‘Hair’ tonight

‘Hair’ raising experience

How gay is the musical Hair? Find out at this special performance as the Lexus Broadway series presents GLBT Broadway in Hamon Hall. The pre-show event features Dallas Voice LifeStyle Editor Arnold Wayne Jones discussing issues of gender identity and sexuality within the counterculture musical.

DEETS: Winspear Opera House, 2403 Flora St. 7 p.m.  $30–$150. ATTPAC.org.

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The lost art of cruising

‘Electro-tricks’ may be quicker and easier, but half the fun of the hook-up was working at it

Hardy Haberman | Flagging Left

I don’t get out much — at least to the bars. First of all I don’t drink anymore, and second, I am not really looking to hook up with anyone since I am in a very nice relationship.

I do, however, occasionally meet friends out for the evening or for a special event.

When I do go out, it is most often to our local leather bar, the Dallas Eagle, and I often indulge in a little people watching. I like to watch the crowd, the way people interact with one another, the ebb and flow of what was once a favorite past time of gay men: cruising.

What surprised me was the lack of that particular gay art going on.

First, let me say this is not a reflection on the Eagle; it’s a fine, first-class leather bar. What I noticed is something I have seen in other cities as well, and it bothers me a bit.

Now for those who might not know, cruising is a delicate dance men used to perform when looking for a partner, playmate or just trick du jour. It usually began with some long, slow looks, occasional subtle signals like a nod, the touch of the brim of a cap, a purposeful second glance or even just a slight change in body language.

If two people read the signals, and actually respond, it might proceed to sending over a drink — or a more direct approach. Often before actually making contact, you would ask a few friends if they knew the man in question, and for the leather scene that would also entail asking if anyone knew more intimate details: Was he a safe player? What was he into?

Of course, we also had the hanky code. It was a more direct and cut to the chase way to let folks know what you were seeking.

I won’t go into the details here, but the basics were: Hanky in the left pocket meant you were a top, and hanky in the right pocket meant you were a bottom.

Still, even with outward signs, there was an art to the whole endeavor. If done correctly, it had an element of seduction in it and all the sexual energy that went with it.

Sadly, I don’t see much of that going on anymore.

What I do see is guys checking their smart phones. Looking a little closer, I see them using Grindr, checking Recon and texting.

That’s when I realized what happened to cruising: It has gone the way of the dodo.

What was once a face-to-face encounter that actually took some time and energy is now a fast, down-and-dirty, “check a few profiles and text enough contacts until you pull a winning number” routine.

The whole cruising experience has become an electronic booty call with no mystery, no romance and no effort.

Oh yes, it is much more efficient. You can select from the variety of “neck-down pictures” and body statistics, like you were choosing a download on Amazon.

Find Mr. Right or at least Mr. Right Enough for Now, text a few lines, set a time and bingo! Insta-trick!

All very high tech and painless. No face-to-face rejections, no appallingly awkward moments. Just on-line chat and, essentially, “booking.”

It would seem to me that applications like Grindr and sites like Recon and CraigsList have replaced the whole cruising experience, and though it might be much more efficient, it really changes to atmosphere in the bars.

The heady sexual tension that used to permeate gay bars has given way to guys and gals on their smart phones texting or cruising — the web. One bar in Florida even has a screen where patrons can text directly to the screen, sort of a visual “shout out” for all to see.

Inevitably, the whole electro-trick phenomenon has spawned something totally unexpected. My partner commented on the subject of this column and suggested there should be an Angie’s List for Grindr.

I was surprised this morning when, while researching this piece, I found something very much like that.

Douchebagsofgrindr.com may just be a parody, but if not it offers some insight into the whole process. Personally, I find it kind of crass, but then I find the whole “electro-trick-speed-dating-booty-call” app thing crass.

It makes me long for the days of actually having to spend a little time to pursue and attract and seduce someone you were interested in. Try that now and I suspect you’d just get accused of being a stalker.

Hardy Haberman is a longtime local LGBT activist and a board member of the Woodhull Freedom Alliance. His blog is at DungeonDiary.Blogspot.com.

This article appeared in the Dallas Voice print edition August 9, 2011.

—  Kevin Thomas

SOTU live chat

Join us for a live chat during the State of the Union, just to share your thoughts about what you’re hearing, etc. We’ll launch this early, at 830PM Eastern – the speech is at 9.




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Getting OWNed: Gay chat show in Winfrey’s aspirational pool

Ryan-OconnorThe finalists for Oprah Winfrey’s “Your OWN Show: Oprah’s Search for the Next TV Star” contest have been announced. And lo and behold — there’s a gay theme in the running:

Ryan O’Connor, of West Hollywood, Calif., who says he wants to be the country’s gay best friend. “If a variety show and a traditional talk show had a baby, that’d be my show,” he said.

Oprah’s network announces 10 show host contestants [AP via Yahoo!]

Ryan will face off against nine other hopefuls once the show makes it January 7 debut. But if the rumor mill has taught us anything about Oprah, it’s that gay chat tends to stick around the talk show queen regardless of all else.

May you be as persistent as the aforementioned gossip, Mr. O’Connor!



**SEE ALSO:
Ryan’s audition tape




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Live Chat for the Prop. 8 Oral Arguments

The oral arguments begin at 10:00 AM PT/1:00 PM ET — and will be broadcast live on C-SPAN.

Our chat is joined by Professor David Cruz, a Constitutional Law expert from USC.




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Live chat: Fortunately, final grade not based solely on #midterms

Rather than start our own chat, we’re going to join up with our pals at Towleroad for what’s sure to be a long night of returns. Engage:



GAY POLITICS: ELECTION RESULTS 2010 [Towle]




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Join our live chat with Rep. Patrick Murphy, the House leader on DADT repeal

The chat with Rep. Patrick Murphy begins at 1:30 PM. The Iraq vet was the House sponsor of the DADT repeal bill — and has been a tireless advocate. Now, he needs our help. The chat is co-hosted by Open Left, Good As You, Pam’s House Blend, Bilerico and AMERICAblog.

For this one, we’ve got an ActBlue page set up. On Murphy’s ActBlue page, the top fundraiser so far is by Stonewall Democrats with 99 contributors. I bet our combined blogs can top that this afternoon. We want 100. Help Patrick Murphy today.




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Join us for a live chat with Rep. Patrick Murphy, Thursday at 1:30pm Eastern

OpenLeft explains it well enough for all of us:

Please join us tomorrow, Thursday October 21st at 1:30 PM EST, for a live chat with Rep. Patrick Murphy

One of the more interesting races to watch has been that of Rep. Patrick Murphy, Democrat of Pennsylvania. The Hill poll out today has him up 46-43 over former Republican Rep. Mike Fitzpatrick, a remarkable swing from a poll that had him down double-digits just a few weeks ago. Murphy has always been of interest to me because he was the original co-sponsor and leader on the successful effort to pass repeal of Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell in the House- something stand-up for this straight veteran to do from a challenging district with a strong challenger lining up (despite the numbers on DADT, everyone was telling him to focus solely on jobs, jobs, jobs and stay away from those gay issues. Needless to say, he ignored them). He counted the votes and worked hard on the inside.

Today, the Philadelphia Inquirer endorsed him, and tomorrow morning will be final two debates. Afterwards, we’re having him here on OpenLeft simultaneously with AMERICABlog, Pam’s House Blend, The Bilerico Project, and Good As You for a live chat about his campaign, Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell, and whatever else is on your mind.

Please join us tomorrow, Thursday October 21st at 1:30 PM EST, for a live chat with Rep. Patrick Murphy.




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Join our live chat with House candidate Steve Pougnet, the openly gay married dad, at 2 PM ET

Open Left, Bilerico, Good As You, Pam’s House Blend and AMERICAblog are hosting a live chat with House candidate Steve Pougnet today at 2 PM Eastern. He’s the openly gay, married dad running against incumbent Mary Bono Mack in California’s 44th District. This race is considered one of the best chances for a Democrat to win a GOP-held seat. Steve’s the Mayor of Palm Springs. Last night, he sent a video inviting folks to the chat.

We’ll be chatting while the Senate is preparing for the filibuster vote on the Defense Authorization bill, which includes the DADT language. Bono Mack voted against the DADT amendment in May.




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Out-Foxx: A Pam’s House Blend live chat

Join an in-progress liveblog w/ Rep.Virginia Foxx’s (R-NC) Democratic challenger Billy Kennedy, moderated by our good pal Pam Spaulding:



*Related post with background info: Liveblog w/Virginia Foxx challenger Billy Kennedy [PHB]




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