Parents are exposing their children to emotional abuse at a local Christian church

It all felt so joyous and loving at first that I almost forgot I was rubbing shoulders with parents who were endangering their own children’s lives.

At 9 am on September 5th at Canyon Hills Community Church, a young man poised drum sticks over a full kit.  Guitarists plugged their instruments into amps as the vocal team lined up behind the song leader.  House lights were dialed down and a 300-strong audience took to their feet.  The house began to rock.  

Giant screens flanking the stage cued up the lyrics and added to the rock concert vibe fostered by deep blue stage lighting.  The auditorium reverberated with fully voiced, energetic praise song.  It really got the blood flowing.

Oh happy day, happy day!

You washed my sin away

Oh happy day, happy day!

I’ll never be the same

Forever I am changed.

Through the applause the band segued into a power ballad, bringing the audience down to a more reverential mindframe.  Many palms were lifted heavenward.  The music and lyrics were emotional.

This is how we know,

This is how we know what love is

Just one look at Your cross

And this is where we see,

This is where we see how love works

For You surrendered Your all …

King Jesus we love You,

For we have been loved,

We have been loved.

This was the introduction to the day’s sermon “Should Christians be tolerant of homosexuality?”  Pamphlets in the lobby and a page on the church’s website state the answer to that question: “no”.  This means that the 20 minutes of joyous song about love that opened the service was a cruel set-up.

I could only guess at the confusion and heartache about to be experienced by the many kids in the auditorium as the pastor used his position of moral authority and the approval of nodding or silent parents to sew into their hearts the seeds of self-loathing and suicide.  I was about to witness raw, deliberate emotional brutality wrapped in the guise of love.  

After a prayer asking God to help teachers lead children to God, one of the pastors angled the congregation for volunteer Sunday school teachers, saying

We as a church, Canyon Hills Community Church, we value children.  If you’ve been in this building, you know that we have an investment in the lives of our children.

“We value our children”?  What a sick joke.
Canyon Hills Community Church is a tenant of the Canyon Park Business Center, a high-tech office park located in the north Seattle suburb of Bothell, WA.  I took notice of the church when the email to the right was circulated company-wide by my wife’s employer, which is also located in Canyon Park.  CHCC’s website made clear that the enterprise angling for new members by offering free lunch is dangerously homophobic.  The hazards of blindly forwarding solicitation emails company-wide was explained to the HR department of my wife’s company, and to their credit they’ve since tightened their policies.

The story would have ended there, but at the time the church’s main web page (left) happened to be advertising a series of upcoming sermons including the one titled “Should Christians be tolerant of homosexuality?”.

I decided I had to witness this service for myself.  Although I’ve heard and read plenty of anti-gay rhetoric from public religious figures, I’ve never attended a service where gays were attacked from the pulpit.  I figured I owe it to the kids here in my own neighborhood to understand as best I can what they are facing.

Pastor Jeff Geise stepped to the pulpit after the opening music and announcements were over.  For over 45 minutes he

* quoted Bible verses

* belied his stated compassion for gays by choosing to use terms like “natural reflexive recoil”, “homosexual” and “gross”

* chastised his gay brother-in-law for leaving a heterosexual marriage rather than recognize that his own sermons compel gay people to pursue false heterosexual lives.

* quoted fake statistics, saying “the consequences often include physical damage, disease and death” and “over a third of professing homosexuals say they would get out of the gay lifestyle”, and

* evilly promised “salvation” through “ex-gay therapy” scams like Exodus International and, even more shockingly, “Pastor Ben’s own thesis that he wrote for his schooling.”.

It was horrible to witness, but well worth the discomfort to experience first-hand the soul-crushing ton of bricks being dropped on children.  I am now even more motivated than before to do what I can to let such kids know they are beautiful, perfect and whole and do not need “saving” a la Pastor Jeff’s cruel and impossible plan.

Sitting a few seats from me was a teenage girl who clearly had been dragged to church by her mother.  The bathroom slippers, sullen slouching and refusal to participate in even the “greet your neighbor” exercise were dead giveaways.  Her brave, defiant presence more than anything else prompted me to question not what the pastor was saying, but to question why children were present in that service at all.

LOVE YOUR CHILDREN TO DEATH

You can watch a video of the sermon here if you’re curious.  I’m not providing a transcript because I don’t think the particular Bible versus cited or arguments made by Pastor Jeff are surprising or even the most important thing.

What is important is that parents are choosing to subject their children to this emotional abuse.  By exposing a gay or maybe-gay child to a church like this, parents make a clear choice to prioritize dogma over their child’s life.  Because make no mistake, for some children the choice between being true to themselves and living up to the impossible heterosexual expectations placed on them by their parents, pastor and church is untenable and so they kill themselves.  Does anyone need reminding what a rocky emotional time adolescence and young adulthood is anyways, without adding to it?

Parents, don’t subject your children to this emotional abuse.  It can kill.

IF YOU ARE IN CRISIS

You are not alone!

* If you live in Washington state, here is a list of places by city and county where you can find help dealing with emotional crisis, get emergency food and shelter, etc.

* The Trevor Project‘s Trevor Lifeline is a national 24-hour free and confidential toll-free suicide prevention hotline specifically aimed at gay or questioning youth, geared toward helping those in crisis or anyone wanting information on how to help someone in crisis. All calls are handled by trained counselors who are familiar with gay and questioning youth. Phone: 1-866-4-U-TREVOR (1-866-488-7386).

* A huge list of other toll-free local, national and international hotlines can be found here at the Safe Schools Coalition website.
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Florida Department of Children & Families Declines to Pursue Adoption Ban

Today, George Sheldon, Director of Florida’s Department of Children & Families (DCF) announced that the agencies will not appeal an intermediate court ruling that a 1977 prohibition on allowing gays and lesbians to adopt violates the state constitution.   DCF has determined that the ruling is applicable statewide, therefore sexual orientation will no longer be a factor in uniting children with parents.  Human Rights Campaign President Joe Solmonese issued the following statement:

“Today is a victory for children in need of loving families throughout Florida.  Every child deserves a permanent, stable home and now gay and lesbian parents can provide for some of the thousands of children in foster care across the state.  Congratulations to the Gill family. Their tenacity, coupled with stellar representation from the ACLU, led to the end of a 33-year discriminatory ban.”


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Video: Paladino fine with gays adopting their own children to brainwash

Carl’s still rolling back what he so clearly and undeniably said. Now that means lip-service support for gay adoptions:

So the GOP candidate acts like the reporter is silly to even ask about gay adoption, just a day after he said he doesn’t want children “brainwashed into thinking that homosexuality is an equally valid and successful option–it isn’t“, and on the very same day that he’s maintaining opposition to marriage equality? Gee Carl: Can’t imagine why anyone might assume a “not” in your adoptive “Why?”. [eye roll, head shake, Speedo grind]

Paladino made the above comments while marching in the Columbus Day Parade. Fitting, since his comments seem much more fit for a flat-earth 1492 than for a well-rounded 2010.

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**EARLIER: Paladino’s comments, including the now-infamous “brainwashing” quip: Video: Paladino meets with rabbi who’s called gays ‘moral terrorists’, manages to outdo even him [G-A-Y]

-More from the man who brought Paladino to the event, professed “friend” Yehuda Levin: Video: Paladino’s friend: ‘Homosexuality is a misnomer…an attack on religion’ [G-A-Y]

-Still more from Yehuda Levin: Says same-sex marriage ’caused the last step before the floods of Noah that actually destroyed the worlds’; says the judicial and legislative system has “spiritually sodomized” (with Paladino sitting right beside him)

-On morning TV, Paladino danced around the comments/his connection to this group (as he does above): Video: On speedos, grinding, and buck-passing [G-A-Y]

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***Oh, and Mr. Paladino: Please, for the love of vocabulary’s God, learn the meaning of the phrase “unequivocal support”!




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Adulterous GOP NY gov. candidate Paladino attacks gays for ‘targeting children’, says gays are ‘dysfunctional’ – oh, and he has a love-child

UPDATE: He has a love-child?  What a freaking hypocritical ass.

Great thing to say when we’re in the middle of a gay youth suicide epidemic, you bigoted ass.

“We must stop pandering to the pornographers and the perverts [he pronounces the word "per-VERTS"] who seek to target our children and destroy their lives. I didn’t march in the gay parade this year -the gay pride parade this year. My opponent did. And that’s not the example we should be showing our children…

“And don’t misquote me as wanting to hurt homosexual people in any way. That would be a dastardly lie. My approach is ‘live and let live.’ I just think my children and your children would be much better off and much more successful getting married and raising and raising a family, and I don’t want them brainwashed into thinking that homosexuality is an equally valid and successful option – it isn’t.”

And his prepared remarks also said the following, per the NYT:

“There is nothing to be proud of in being a dysfunctional homosexual.” But Mr. Paladino omitted that statement when he gave the speech.




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Carl Paladino: Children Shouldn’t Be Brainwashed Into Homosexuality

Teabagger lunatic and New York GOP gubernatorial candidate Carl “Imprison The Poor” Paladino today said, “I just think my children and your children would be much better off and much more successful getting married and raising a family, and I don’t want them brainwashed into thinking that homosexuality is an equally valid and successful option–it isn’t. There is nothing to be proud of in being a dysfunctional homosexual. That is not how God created us.”

Paladino was touring Orthodox Jewish neighborhoods in Brooklyn where he made the remark, also saying to at least one group that he would veto a same-sex marriage bill as governor. A spokesman for Attorney General Andrew Cuomo, Paladino’s opponent, immediately fired out this reaction: “Mr. Paladino’s statement displays a stunning homophobia and a glaring disregard for basic equality. These comments along with other views he has espoused make it clear that he is way out of the mainstream and is unfit to represent New York.”

RELATED: Speaking of brainwashing, Carl Paladino has been a fucking hero to the homocons over at Hillbuzz. Wanna bet today’s asshattery doesn’t change their tune a bit?

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Matt Barber: Gay Vultures Are Picking The Bones Of Dead Queer Children

“As Rahm Emanuel famously said: ‘You never let a serious crisis go to waste. It’s an opportunity to do things you could not do before.’ It makes me physically ill to watch as the HRC and other ‘gay’ militants lick their chops and rub their hands together over the tragic suicides of these troubled, sexually confused young men. Before they were even laid to rest, the radical homosexual lobby pounced leveraging these suicides to demand that government codify each of their extremist, social engineering demands. This is political exploitation at its slimiest and it pours salt on the wounds of loved ones.

“But Christians are also praying that these wicked and callous political vultures who seek to exploit these suicides become confounded and fail fantastically. Their mission is not one of ‘tolerance’ or ‘diversity.’ Quite the opposite: Their goal is to fan flames of anti-Christian bigotry and discrimination, evangelizing on behalf of their own perverted god: moral relativism. We simply won’t let them get away with it.” – Liberty Counsel attorney Matt Barber.

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Heterosexuals Bailing On Biological Responsibility to Spit Out Children

For all the sex the gays are having, none of it is resulting in offspring. The onus of fostering new generations of children, conservatives like Marco Rubio and Sally Kern tell us, is the exclusive right of heterosexuals. So how come they're DOING SUCH A TERRIBLE JOB AT IT.


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Florida AG Bill McCollum Wants Gay Foster Parents Outlawed: ‘I do not think we should have homosexuals guiding our children’

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Florida gubernatorial candidate Attorney General Bill McCollum not only supports the state's ban on gay adoption (and brought "ex-gay" fraud George Rekers in to testify), he wants to expand the law to ban gays from being foster parents.

Excerpted from the Florida Baptist Witness:

Florida permits homosexuals to serve as foster parents. That has been used as an argument to undermine the ban on adoptions. Should homosexuals be permitted to serve as foster parents in Florida?

Well, I personally don’t think so, but that is the law.


Should the law be changed?

I think that it would be advisable. I really do not think that we should have homosexuals guiding our children. I think that it’s a lifestyle that I don’t agree with. I realize a lot of people do. It’s my personal faith, religious faith, that I don’t believe that the people who do this should be raising our children. It’s not a natural thing. You need a mother and a father. You need a man and a woman. That’s what God intended.

Bill McCollum apparently puts his god before the welfare of children.


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Danish Parliament passes law allowing same-sex couples to adopt

A coalition of opposing politicians and breakaway memebrs of Denmark’s ruling Liberal Party this week pushed legislation through the country’s Parliament allowing same-sex couples in legal civil unions to adopt children together.

The vote comes a year after the bill was introduced and happened without the support of the government, according to this report at PinkNews.co.uk.

Denmark had already allowed gays and lesbians to adopt individually, and those in relationships could adopt their partners’ existing children.

Other Nordic countries, such as Iceland, Norway and Sweden, already allowed same-sex couples to adopt jointly.

Not everybody was happy about the new legislation. LifeSiteNews.com, a Catholic website, noted: “The decision came despite Denmark being signatory to the UN’s Convention on the Rights of the Child, which specifies that the interests of children will be considered in legislation pertaining to them over the interests of adults.”droidolomад вордс

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Huckabee, puppies and drugs

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Former Arkansas governor and former Republican presidential candidate Mike Huckabee recently held forth on gay and lesbian parenting, and even took the time to once again disparage same-sex marriage, in an interview with a student journalist for The Perspective, the magazine for the College of New Jersey.

Children, Huackbee reminded everyone, are not puppies, and same-sex marriage is “not necessary.”

Huckabee was reiterating his support for an Arkansas law that prohibits same-sex couples from adopting children or becoming foster parents. He said: “I think this is not about trying to create statements for people who want to change the basic fundamental definitions of family. Children are not puppies. This is not a time to see if we can experiment and find out, how does this work?”

He also equated same-sex marriage to drug use, incest abnd polygamy, saying: “You don’t go ahead and accommodate every behavioral pattern that is against the ideal. That would be like saying, well, there are a lot of people who like to use drugs, so let’s go ahead and accommodate those who want who use drugs. There are some people who believe in incest, so we should accommodate them. There are people who believe in polygamy, so we should accommodate them.”

I can’t imagine anyone being surprised by this. I mean, it’s the same-old same-old from the anti-gay right-wingers who will do and say anything to maintain their credentials with their anti-gay base or rile that base up with the threat of the LGBT boogeyman to spur donations.

So while I am not surprised anymore, I continue to be outraged. As a gay parent, I can assure Mr. Huckabee and others like him that raising my children is not an experiment. My wife and I are certainly not perfect parents, but we do our best every day to make sure that our children are happy, healthy and well-cared for. Why? Not because our home is a science lab and we want to see what happens, but because we are their parents, and we love them. We want the best for them.

And I can guarantee Mr. Huckabee — and the others like him — that my marriage is no experiment either. It was as “necessary” as his marriage. My wife and I were married because we wanted to make that same commitment to each other that other couples choose to make — to love, honor, care for, support and enjoy each other, til death do us part.

I am not asking Huckabee to “accommodate” me and my marriage. I am telling him he needs to sit down, shut up and get out of my way. The only thing I require of the government is that it acknowledge my marriage and treat it equally with any other marriage.skypebreakerкупить тексты для сайта

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