Coming out as a gay hockey fan

Via OutSports and the brilliantly named gay hockey blog Puck Buddies comes this charming account of a gay Dallas Stars fan’s recent trip to a game at the American Airlines Center with his boyfriend. An excerpt:

After our hockey game (he bought the tickets as a surprise), it got me thinking – will there ever be a time when I can go to a Stars game and not be afraid to kiss my boyfriend in between plays or periods? I think this is something every gay hockey fan has thought about at one point or another, and I’m curious to hear from other guys around here if they’ve been in the same position. 

I had an amazing time watching hockey with Jon and I can’t wait to go back and do it again and again and again, but wonder if I’ll feel more comfortable and a little less self-conscious the next time. The concern is Jon is my first REAL boyfriend, we live in Dallas, TX, and the typical hockey crowd mayyyyyy not be the most tolerant towards fans like us. I really do hope that one day we’ll be able to take in a game and not feel odd, judged or so rare. There’s no way we’re the only gay guys who go ape for the Stars. No way.

Saturday night was great. These past two months have been great, and Jon is great because he’s not only willing to put up with my hockey obsession but he encourages it as well. Oh yeah, the Stars beat the visiting Blue Jackets 4-2, and the night only got better after the final horn.

—  John Wright

Dallas’ Gretchen Hamm among Human Rights Campaign’s ‘Mothers of the Year’

Gretchen Hamm

Gretchen Hamm of Dallas, who founded and in 2000, is one of six “Mothers of the Year” announced today by the Human Rights Campaign.

Hamm’s lesbian daughter, Kathryn, was getting married in 1999 when Gretchen discovered that she couldn’t find things like photo albums for same-sex couples, even at the local gay bookstore. In 2005, Kathryn took over the business, which is now affiliated with

HRC’s six “Mothers of the Year” were selected from hundreds of nominees by a panel of judges that included Betty DeGeneres, Ellen’s mom. From HRC:

Gretchen Hamm, Dallas, TX, is the mother of a lesbian daughter.  During the “difficult days” of her daughter’s adolescence, Gretchen gave her a large poster for her room that said, “Be Yourself.”  Later, during her daughter’s commitment ceremony to her partner, Gretchen famously took her Platform of Love to a whole new level when she founded an online boutique for same sex couples planning their ceremonies. Gretchen is a long-time HRC volunteer.

Congrats, Gretchen, and Happy Mother’s Day! To read about the other Mothers of the Year, go here.

—  John Wright

The One Church announces permament location

The One Church is moving to the Maplewood Shopping Center.

The One Church began offering services for the LGBT Pentecostal community with spaces in Garland and Fort Worth. Recently, the church moved their services to the Resource Center. Now they announce their new permanent location on Inwood Road. Here’s the e-mail we received today:

The ONE Church; North Texas only GLBT affirming Apostolic Pentecostal church is thrilled to announce our new permanent location! Moving date TBA. Our new church home is located in the Maplewood Shopping Center – 2515 Inwood Rd. (at Maple Ave), [Suite 213 – above Little Ceasar’s Pizza] Dallas, TX 75235 We’ll be reopening our Thrift Shop at the same location [Street level – Suite 121] by the beginning of March!

Exciting things are hapenning. We will publish announcements as to specific dates online and in The Dallas Voice. Watch for announcements.

A Bibles & Affirming Christian Book Store will also occupy part of our space, as will our “Fellowship Cafe” (Coffee House). Donations of “gently used” clothing, housewares, home decor, etc are greatly needed for the Thrift Shop. This ministry will enable us to help people suppliment their incomes who have difficulty securing work elsewhere, provide clothing and resources for people with health issues and special needs, as well as will help to finance the many ministries and outreaches of The ONE Church. Info about the Thrift Shop may be found online at For info or donation pick up (214) 724-565.

—  Rich Lopez

Deaths 01.14.11

Gary L. Allen, who was known as “The Uscan Man” at Kroger on Cedar Springs Road, died on Jan. 9, two days before his 61st birthday. He had worked at Kroger for 35 years and was one of two people who had worked at the store on Cedar Springs since it opened in 1998.

Throughout the years, he participated in many charity events. He won several honors for his volunteerism.

Allen is survived by his beloved dog Bo, who has been given a new home by some of his friends; and by friends Elaine and Mike Casey, John “Spanke” Studer, Mark Sharp and Rod Wait, Shannon Percell and Ronye Mitchell-Percell, Mariann Slocum and Cyndi Richards, and Don Maison.

In lieu of flowers, donations in his memory may be made to AIDS Services Dallas, P.O. Box 4338, Dallas, Texas 75208. A celebration of his life will be held at a private home on Jan. 22 at 4 p.m. Address and additional information is available at Kroger.

This article appeared in the Dallas Voice print edition Jan. 14, 2011.

—  John Wright

Get your gay Pride on early — and often

The parade and festival aren’t until Sunday, but gay Pride-related festivities in Dallas have already begun and continue every day this week. The Dallas Tavern Guild has posted a full schedule of Pride-related events on its website (the schedule can also be found in DTG’s annual Pride guide distributed inside Dallas Voice on Sept. 3 and 17). But for your convenience, here’s a look of what’s happening today, Monday, Sept. 13:

JR’s Bar & Grill
Sushi, Sake, and Sapporo
Sake & Sapporo all day all night – Sushi 6:00 to 9:00
3923 Cedar Springs Road
Dallas, Texas 75219

Service Industry Night
Round Up Saloon

Join us as we salute the service industry with Happy Hour prices all Day and all Night.
3912 Cedar Springs Road
Dallas, TX 75219

Step Up To The Mic For Pride
The Brick/Joe’s
Give us your best Pride Performance at OPEN MIC NIGHT
Poets, Comedians, Spoken Word
Enter for your chance to Win up to $300
2525 Wycliff
Dallas, Texas 75219

Koko Chanel Show at midnight (12am)
Karaoke starts at 9pm
Drink Specials – $2 wells / $2 domestic from 9pm – 11pm
No Cover
4350 Maple Avenue
Dallas, Texas 75219

—  John Wright

Out actress calls Dallas ‘gayville’

Amanda Bearse

Out actress and director Amanda Bearse played Marcy D’Arcy or “Married With Children.” She lives in Atlanta and was profiled in a wonderful interview in Southern Voice.

One piece that was of interest to Dallas readers was her impressions of our city. She said she prefers living in a city like Atlanta because of the community but said she travels to Dallas and is always impressed by our community.

Sovo: What do you think of the gay scene in Atlanta?  How does this town compare to being gay in other larger cities?

Amanda: Surprisingly, some of the bigger cities don’t have as much of a cohesive community as Atlanta, but I find this community to be fairly disenfranchised with men and women. There is a divide. One of the cities I travel to is Dallas, TX, and it’s like ‘gayville,’ but it’s all men and women in clubs and restaurants. It’s all about community, and I was really struck by that. I don’t have a sense of cohesiveness in New York. Things change so much, but there has always been a real separation of men and women. In L.A. there is also pretty much a separation. In Seattle there are a lot of lesbians.  I think I heard a statistic recently that there are more lesbians than dogs there, haha.

We know we have a great community here and hope Bearse will spend more time in Dallas, although her new wife lives in Seattle.

—  David Taffet