Update on Ray Hill’s arrest

Ray Hill

Ray Hill

As previously reported by Houstini, longtime Houston LGBT activist Ray Hill was arrested last night after a confrontation with police outside Treasures, a gentlemen’s club on Westhiemer Rd. Hill has been released from jail and posted the following message to his Facebook page:

I was arrested trying to stop power arrogant cops from bullying frightened and vulnerable people (this is not my first rodeo) There will be a trial; they will lie under oath; I will show the video of the whole incident; I will win and then sue and win that case. The system works if you have the tools to use it properly. My lawyer and I will make money off the city in this process. The cycle will end when the City of Houston stops trying to treat adults like they were children…

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Become a part of the Gender Book

The Gender BookThe Gender Book is an effort to try to bring together, in one resource, a discussion of the wide array of gender expressions and identities that fall under the transgender umbrella. It’s creators are holding a brainstorming session next Thursday evening, December 8, to get public input and allow the community at large to become a part of the project.

“We sort of just made the Gender Book out of a need that we felt,” says Mel Reiff Hill, one of the collaborators on the project, along with Boston Bostian and Jay Mays. Hill says that the creators of the Gender Book searched for resources to help them talk about gender, but were unable to find anything that met their needs. “I had a boyfriend who had to pay a therapist to attend training on gender so that he could get the care he needed,” says Hill “the resources just weren’t out there.”

“At the time we were all living in the same house and we had a writer and an artist and a fundraising person and an enteprenuer. All of us were under the transgender umbrella in one way or another and all of us had friends and lovers who are as well,” and thus the Gender Book was born.

Hill describes the brainstorming session as “an interactive community party.” “We’re the first to admit that we can’t represent everyone,” says Hill, recognizing the limitations of any author writing on such a diverse topic. “We’ll have surveys for people to fill out and snacks and coloring book versions for people to fill out”

The coloring book pages are the result of Hill’s process in illustrating the book. Hill first draws pages in pencil then outlines the drawings in pen and erases the pencil, finally scanning the drawing and coloring it by computer. “I presented a workshop with some high schoolers and I was showing one of them my binder of papers looking through it one of them saw the original pen drawings,” says Hill. “He was like ‘you should give these to high schoolers, they love coloring it’s very zen-like for them.'” Hill says that the coloring pages have proved a hit at subsequent workshops and a great way to open up conversations about gender.

The brainstorming session, coloring pages included, is next Thursday, December 8, at the Lawndale Art Center (4912 Main). Attendees are asked to RSVP through Facebook.

More information on the Gender Book is available through their website, TheGenderBook.com.

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Liberty Hill’s Darrell Tucci: It Gets Better

(Cross-posted with permission and many thanks!)

October 07, 2010

It Gets Better – From Despair to Activist

Byline: Darrell Tucci

In light of the recent suicides of gay teens around the country, I felt compelled to share my own story for the first time to let youth know it gets better and to let people know they can do something to help.

At 18, I was suicidal.  I had decided I would take my life due to such deep self-hatred about being gay after years of being bullied and harassed about being the fat kid and the geek and often called faggot even though I wasn’t out or even sure I was gay.  I wrote a poem that would serve as my suicide note, I planned the date, got the prescription.  Two days before the planned date, I was walking as a sophmore through my university and just happened to look to my left and saw a Safe Space sticker on a faculty door.  It was closed.  I didn’t want to be seen looking at it but I knew it was some how gay related.  

I stuck a note under the door saying “I need help, please call” and included my number.

A young professor called.  He told me about this organization called GLSEN.  I never told him I was planning to kill myself.  But the idea there was an org helping high school kids struggling with what I was feeling made me feel less alone and I thought that I wanted to be sure no one else ever had to feel this way.  

I was bullied and harassed because people thought I was gay.  What kept me going was not that I was happy or less depressed but that I learned I might help someone else.  He introduced me to a therapist, the gay student group on campus and the GLSEN NNJ chapter.  I gave them my very first gift to a nonprofit. By meeting them, and others on campus they introduced me to, I finally told one of them how desperate I was and they helped get me into rehab to deal with my suicidality and my eating disorder in 1996.

I came back from rehab.  I came out at 20 with amazing support and immediately became an activist.  I lead the group with that same professor to add sexual orientation and gender identity to MSU’s anti-discrimination policies immediately after Matthew Shepard’s passing.  I changed majors and moved towards my nonprofit career.

I’ve been privileged to work for amazing non-profits such as GLSEN and now at the Liberty Hill Foundation. If you are a young person and need help, call the Trevor Hotline now at 866-4-U-TREVOR. Someone is there 24 hours per day.

I tell this story publicly now for the first time because I want youth to know there is hope but we as adults need to be sure they know where to find it.

GLSEN’s Safe Space Campaign relaunches this week.  The kit costs only .00.  Go online and donate or more at http://www.glsen.org and help GLSEN get these kits across the country.  One sticker can save a life.  It saved mine.

If you live in Los Angeles and want to be part of advancing LGBT rights and equality in the City of Angels, visit Liberty Hill and sign up for more information.

Lastly I want to send a special thanks to the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (www.AFSP.org)for their leadership on research and education on LGBT Suicide Prevention.

Watch the video of Darrell telling his story:

* RELATED: Press Release: Darrell Tucci Elected To GLSEN National Leadership Council
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Which Will Be The Texas Same-Sex Marriage? Nikki Araguz’s Or Sabrina Hill’s Marriage?

Marriage, involving Texas and women who’ve had genital reconstruction surgery — which I’ll identify for the purposes of this piece as transsexual women — are at the center of a legal question: Which will be the Texas same-sex marriage? — Nikki Araguz’s or Sabrina Hill’s marriage?.

Beginning with the Houston Chronicle’s Legal Chaos Reigns In Same-Sex Unions, Maria C. Gonzalez discusses same-sex marriage, and does it mostly in regards to Nikki Araguz marriage. When I spoke to Professor Gonzalez about her commentary, she told me the header she submitted for her piece was A Plea For The Dignity Of Private Dysfunction. She didn’t title the piece with regards to same-sex marriage, but an editor for the Houston Chronicle retitled it.

Professor Gonzalez began her piece this way:

Many Texans are so afraid of gay, lesbian, bisexual and especially transgender persons that what would be simple probate matters to others turn into media fodder for us.

The Nikki Araguz case going on in Wharton County is another example of how the systematic disenfranchisement of members of my community has turned one woman’s private pain into a very public indignity. Firefighter Thomas Araguz died, and his wife and children would normally receive his death benefits. Perhaps like many in-laws who do not approve of their children’s choice of spouse, Araguz’s parents do not want their daughter-in-law to receive anything. They have hired a lawyer who is using a 1999 San Antonio appeals court case, Littleton v. Prange, to argue that Nikki Araguz was not Thomas Araguz’s wife because there was no marriage. Littleton held that even if one’s gender has been surgically corrected, one nonetheless remains the gender identified on his/her birth certificate. In other words, Littleton says that gender cannot be legally changed for the purposes of marriage.

Many transwomen and transmen in Texas are married to their partners, many of whose birth certificates reflect the same gender as their spouses. In El Paso, a same-sex couple recently requested a marriage license. These two women have presented appropriate documents with birth certificates showing that one of them was identified as male at birth.

The request has been forwarded to Attorney General Greg Abbott for a ruling. Not surprisingly, Abbott has avoided controversy by delaying his ruling pending an outcome in the Wharton County case. This is a no-win case for Abbott, whose supporters overwhelmingly oppose both same sex and transgender marriage….

That second woman would be Sabrina Hill. In that case, Sabrina Hill was denied marriage to another woman because she is a post-surgical, male-to-female transsexual. She attempted to obtain a marriage license to marry another woman, based on the Judgment of the Texas Appeals Court in the Case of Littleton v. Prange, but as Professor Gonzalez found the Attorney General in Texas unwilling to take a position on whether Sabrina Hill’s marriage would be an opposite-sex or same-sex marriage.

The courts are going to decide what sex and gender is in Texas, and either Nikki Araguz or Sabrina Hill is going to end up with a marriage that is declared a same-sex marriage.

If we use gender identity and genital reconstruction surgery as our measures, then legally Sabrina Hill’s planned marriage would be a Texas same-sex marriage, and Nikki Araguz will have had a Texas heterosexual marriage. If Littleton v. Prague is still the Texas sex and gender legal standard, then Sabrina Hill’s planned marriage would be a legally heterosexual marriage, and Nikki Araguz will have had a same-sex marriage.

If the 2009 Texas statue Texas Fam. § 1.102, Chapter 2 — which states {as modified by Acts 2009, 81st Leg., R.S., Ch. 978, Sec. 1, eff. September 1, 2009 (H.B. No. 3666)} — that for a marriage license application, one way proof of eligibility for a planned marriage may be established is by “an original or certified copy of a court order relating to the applicant’s name change or sex change,” — well, then we are where we are now: in limbo. We’re in a Texas courtroom deciding whether someone is male or female for purposes of marriage, and that decision will effect many, many other transsexual people in Texas.

Weighing in on this in relationship to LGBT community is Phyllis Frye — Nikki Araguz’s attorney. Frye herself is identified as both transsexual and transgender; Her website is www.transgenderlegal.com.

Well, Frye was quoted in the Dallas Voice, in their piece ‘The Same-Sex Marriage Fight Is Just As Much A Transgender Fight As It Is (An LGB) Fight’, as stating the following in an newsletter/e-blast:

“Why is it that the Prop 8, same-sex marriage fight in CA and the DOMA same-sex marriage fight in the Northeast are BOTH so well funded by lesbian and gay groups and lesbian and gay individuals, but the same-sex marriage fight in Texas has been thus far supported ONLY by a small number of mostly transgenders plus three LGBT-allied churches, mostly in Houston, all in Texas?

“Where is the same national support given for the L and G same-sex marriage struggles?” she added. “Has it remained nonexistent for over six weeks now because this Texas fight is insignificantly and merely a ‘tranny’ same-sex marriage fight, so who nationally gives a shit? Then are we a National LGBT-inclusive community, but NOT when it comes to financing the ‘tranny’ same-sex marriage fights? From here, it seems to me – still – that the national L and G groups and the big bucks L and G attitudes haven’t really changed very much. FOLKS, IT IS TIME YOU FIGURED IT OUT THAT THE SAME-SEX MARRIAGE FIGHT IS JUST AS MUCH A TRANSGENDER FIGHT AS IT IS A LESBIAN, GAY AND BISEXUAL FIGHT.

Okay, if I were wording Phyllis Frye’s e-blast, I would have used the language “marriage equality” instead of “same-sex marriage” because her client doesn’t see her marriage to her husband as a same-sex marriage. But, Frye’s overall point on LGBT donors and LGBT organizations is still worth noting.

As far as I can tell, no national lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) non-profit organization has weighed in on the marriage issues revolving around the specific cases of Nikki Araguz and Sabrina Hill, and Frye would know better than me if any LGBT big donor or non-profit organization has contributed to Nikki Araguz’s legal defense fund.

It’s an eerie silence from LGBT community, for sure. This is especially true considering how many trans people I know have worked both in front of the room and behind the scenes on marriage equality — especially here in my own home state with regards to Prop 8.

In the meantime, if Littleton v. Prague is still the standard on sex and gender for marriage purposes in Texas, then the court ruling on Nikki Araguz’s probate case will again highlight how post-operative transsexuals have a Loving v. Virginia issue regarding the fundamental right to marry — an issue of their marriages annulled at state lines. That’s because, as New Jersey’s M.T. v. J.T. showed us, different states apply different standards to transsexuals regarding sex and gender, and crossing state lines can result in a transsexual’s marriage becoming a heterosexual marriage or a same-sex marriage.

In the meantime too, we’re still left with the legal question: Which will be the Texas same-sex marriage? — Nikki Araguz’s or Sabrina Hill’s marriage?


Further reading:

* Houston Press: The Fireman’s Wife

* M.T. v. J.T. (Superior Court of New Jersey, Appellate Division, 1976)

* Lewis v. Harris (New Jersey, 2006)

* Littleton v. Prague (Texas Appellate Court, 1999)

* Deakin Law Review: The Proof is in the History: The Louisiana Constitution Recognizes Transsexual Marriages and Louisiana Sex Discrimination Law Covers Transsexuals- So Why Isn’t Everyone Celebrating? (By Katrina Rose)



* My Fox Houston Asks Website Users Whether Trans People Should Be Allowed To Marry

* One’s Gender Identity Isn’t Societal Perception Of It; Marriage Equality Isn’t Just A GLB Issue

* Wednesday This & That: Open Thread (August 4, 2010)

* The “Alleged” Transgender Wife Of A Texas Firefighter And Inheritance

* Sabrina Hill’s Story Reminds Us Why Marriage Equality Is A Transgender Issue Too

* Trans Woman Denied The Fundamental Right To Marry In Reno, Nevada

* Question At The Marriage Chapel: “Are you a transsexual?”

* NCLR’s Shannon Minter at the Cali Transgender Leadership Summit: “Sure! I am a transgender man.”

* Profile: Join The Impact’s/San Diego’s Kelly Moyer
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