Letting it REGISTER • Pride Weddings & Celebrations 2011

Gift registries can be intimidating. Dean Driver makes them easy

FASHION. PLATE. | Dean Driver knows how to make a tabletop pop — and how to make it easy on you to choose your gifts. (Arnold Wayne Jones/Dallas Voice)

BY RICH LOPEZ

Perhaps the one wedding tradition same-sex couples might waffle on is signing up for that beg-a-thon, the gift registry. Forget whether to do so (you should); the real question is, where can you find that particular china pattern you once saw in a magazine?

The answer to that question is probably Dean Driver. With his new company, Consilium Lifestyle Collections, Driver makes what could be a daunting (even intimidating) task for same-sex couples possibly the easiest  job out of all the wedding planning.

“I don’t know if the average gay couple feels comfortable going into stores,” Driver says. “They may, but many retailers just aren’t reaching out to gay couples.”

Teaming up with Consilium Creative Marketing, Driver created what may be the first by-appointment source of its kind in Dallas to provide a wedding gift registry for same-sex couples. While the services are for everyone, Driver believes that this personal touch can bring comfort to any gay newlyweds hesitant about how to sign up for gifts. It also gives them a home field advantage when looking for fine tabletop products and more.

“The way we do business is changing, and this has afforded me the ability to do in-home consultations and also wedding registries,” Driver says. “I come to the client with samples to get an idea of their lifestyle and suggest products and can see what will work with what’s already in the home.”

The affable Driver knows his stuff. After working with tabletop industries for years in large markets like New York, he has access to many luxury brands and even unique home products. The usual china and crystal items are no problem, but items like linens and household accessories are more easily available through him.

Driver’s first piece of advice on getting started with a registry: Don’t be intimidated.

“I demystify all that for you,” he says. “That’s what I’m here for. I’ll make it easier for you. And people shouldn’t think that everything offered in a registry costs so much. We do have some unique options that are moderately priced.”

Consilium has only been around for a few months, but it has burst out of the gate with a selection of up to 50 brands, some exclusive to them. And with Driver’s knowledge and background, he can pretty much get anybody anything they want.

“I’m a sort of an expert in tabletops, and I have my finger on the pulse of the industry,” he says. “I go to Paris, to Milan and see all the new patterns. And if you saw a plate in a magazine and brought it to me,  I could pinpoint what it is. When I say anything, I mean anything — and you may be only person in the country to have it.”

Something his company can guarantee is the death of that most dreaded wedding tradition: The return. Once items are selected for the registry, gift givers don’t have to worry about buying an item that’s already been purchased. Instead, the company does gift cards only, which are beautifully packaged for the giver to present.

“This prevents exchanges or duplicates,” he says. “Plus, clients may change their minds and gift cards give them an opportunity to get something else. And it’s a little more green without all that wrapping paper and shipping to worry about.”

Driver and company seems to have gotten rid of all the excuses couples can make to partake in registering for gifts. Being that a wedding is a life-changing event, Driver mostly wonders why not go all out?

“Couples shouldn’t shy away from getting nice things,” he says. “This is the one time to get the nice stuff, so why not? Anything you want, I can get.”

The only caveat — Driver encourages people to use the nice stuff everyday.

“Yeah, don’t pack it away in a cabinet like our parents did,” he says.

Of course, if there’s one thing gays know how to do it’s merchandise.

For more information, visit ConsiliumLifestyleCollections.com.

This article appeared in the Dallas Voice print edition May 6, 2011.

—  Michael Stephens

Fischer’s idea of a truce: Gays sit down, shut up, and hope American Pie flakes off a few crumbs

Bryan Fischer works the fundamental misrepresentation that keeps anti-gay “culture warring” rooted into the realm of American pastime:

A “truce” would have been homosexual activists coming to the FRC and AFA and saying, hey, we won’t push gays in the military, the Employment Non-Discrimination Act, repeal of the Defense of Marriage Act, anti-bullying legislation, special rights legislation based on gender identity, federal “spousal” benefits for partners of homosexuals, etc. etc. if only you’ll stop pushing for legislation that protects the integrity of the American family.

Bryan Fischer: Conservatives: Mitch Daniels truce is a surrender [AFA]

This is like a schoolyard bully setting truce stakes that say he won’t take away any more of a certain kid’s lunch money, just as long as said kid doesn’t seek to reclaim any of the prior stolen funds. Because the reality is that every single “culture war” point Mr. Fischer highlights — marriage limitation, military discrimination, wanton termination of employment, a national school climate plagued by anti-LGBT bullying, etc. — involves self-appointed heterosexists taking away the kind of easily, benignly level playing field that should exist under all American citizen’s feet. The LGBT rights fight is not really a push forward that deserves an adversary: It is a quest to reclaim the lost pieces that adversarial forces have swept under the national rug!

The “culture war” is a conservative-declared battle, filled with an uncountable number of lies, an exorbitant amount of squandered capital, and a priceless amount of human pain. There is only one side that needs to declare an armistice here — and it aint the folks who always thought they’d get a chance to live their lives, not pause their existences in order to toss back unprovoked bombs!

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**FOR THOSE NOT FAMILIAR WITH FISCHER: He’s the guy who’s said that “homosexuals in the military gave us…six million dead Jews,” who’s said “homosexuals should be disqualified from public office,” who has called on Christian conservatives to breed gays and progressives out of existence, has called gay sex a “form of domestic terrorism,” who’s said only gays were savage enough for Hitler, has compared gays to heroin abusers, has directly compared laws against gay soldiers to those that apply to bank robbers, who once invoked a Biblical story about stabbing “sexually immoral” people with spears, saying we need this kind of action in modern day, who has spoken out against gays serving as public school teachers, has questioned why Medals of Honor are given to people who save lives (rather than take lives), who says that open service will “assign the United States to the scrap heap of history,” and who has blamed gay activists for dead gay kids, saying that: “If we want to see fewer students commit suicide, we want fewer homosexual students.” His words pretty much single-handedly landed the American Family Association on the Southern Poverty Law Center’s hate groups list.




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If trying to get off a hate list, calling gays innately bad is prob. not best idea

It’s cute the way the professional anti-gays think they are the ones who get to determine whether or not their homo-hostile work has met a certain threshold. Especially when they further castigate millions while doing so:

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*AUDIO SOURCE: Family Research Council Responds to Being Called “Hate Group” [FoTF's CitizenLink]

Right, Tony. The facts and the science are on your side. That’s why you guys need to keep creating your own splinter groups in order to counter what credible science is actually saying, or hang on to ancient, skewed studies in order to do your daily work.

The truth: FRC is crapping a brick right now, which is why they keep talking about this SPLC label. And frankly, we say “bring it.” Because all they are doing is shedding more light on the documented facts that led them to the list. The documented facts that they can ignore all they want, but that the unforgiving annals of recorded history have meticulously noted.

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*MORE: Christian conservative Warren Throckmorton calls on FRC and the others to take responsibility for their misrepresentations: SPLC myth #4: Homosexuals don’t live nearly as long as heterosexuals [Throckmorton]

*MORE: Reminder of the kind of thing that got FRC on the list:



*SOURCE: Gays seek immigration reform [Medill Reports]

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*SOURCE: MSNBC

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*SOURCE: The Quest For Change — Tony Perkins [Grace Chapel]

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Page 1 of the Family Research Council’s “Slippery Slope To Same-Sex Marriage” document,

which compares same-sex marriage to bestiality in both graphic and text:

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Michaele + Tareq Salahi Have No Idea Where The Gay Bar Cover Charge Cash Went

Michaele and Tareq Salahi insist their private premiere party at a gay bar for The Real Housewives of D.C. was a fundraiser for "the troops," but they weren't in charge of running it, they were just VIP guests, so don't expect them to know where all the money went from charging admittance, OK? [P6]


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