‘Walk a Mile in Her Shoes’ and raise awareness about sexual assault

walk a mileEvery two minutes, someone in America is raped. In Texas, one in every five women and one in every 33 men are victims of sexual assault.

It is true that most rape victims are women, but rape also affects every person who loves someone who is raped — their families, their friends, their coworkers, their entire communities. And yet, too often people tend to try and turn a blind eye. We don’t want to see that pain in others. We don’t want others to see that pain in us.

But we have to face the pain if we want to stop it. And that means ALL of us. That’s where Walk A Mile in Her Shoes Dallas 2016 comes in.

The main idea of this event — in which men literally walk a mile in high heels — is to raise awareness of all the issues surrounding rape, and specifically to engage men in being part of the solution to ending sexual violence. It is sponsored by the Dallas County Sexual Assault Coalition, which  brings together law enforcement,  the District Attorney’s Office, social service agencies, medical and mental health professionals, and concerned community members to work towards creating a more coordinated community effort to address sexual assault and victim services.

Talk about an event custom-made for the drag community! You guys know you could show ’em how its done!

Walk a Mile in Her Shoes will be held Saturday, April 9, from 9 a.m. to noon. The walk begins and ends at the Continental Pedestrian Bridge, 109 Continental Ave., in Dallas. Registration is $30 for men who need to rent high heels (limited numbers of shoes are available for rent), and $25 for the guys who can bring their own. Teams of four men can register for $100. Women and children under 13 can participate, too, registering as “supporters” for $20. (Registration prices go up for those to wait to register at the event.) Register online here.

The guys walking in the event are also eligible to compete in the Shoe Decorating Contest, with cash prices for first, second and third place finishers. So get out the rhinestones and the hot glue gun and get busy glittering up those stilettos!

(Be sure to “like” the Walk A Mile Facebook page to keep up with the news.)

 

—  Tammye Nash

UPDATE: Rape victim speaks out

The woman attacked inside a bathroom stall at S4 over the weekend told Dallas Voice today (Tuesday, Jan. 19), that the attack “went way beyond sexual assault. It was a rape.”

Prince Karim

Prince Karim, suspect in rape at S4

The young woman, whose name is being withheld for her privacy, said she went to the Cedar Springs nightclub Saturday night, Jan. 16, with her female fiancee and her fiancee’s co-worker. She had become separated from them in the crowd when she met Prince Karim, a 31-year-old Middle Eastern man that she assumed — based on the way he was dressed, his hairstyle and the fact that he was in a gay bar — was a gay man.

The woman said she and Karim went out onto the S4 patio to smoke, and that while they were there, she realized that he was not gay and that he was hitting on her. “He told me he loves black women [the victim is black] and that he isn’t gay. He asked me if I had thought he was gay and if he looked gay. I told him yes, and that if he didn’t want people to think he was gay, maybe he should dress differently.”

The woman said she went back inside the club then to try to get away from Karim, but that he followed her inside. She said she was on her phone, calling and texting her fiancee and their friend to tell them he was following her and she had become afraid of him. When she couldn’t find her fiancee right away, the woman said she went into the bathroom — not realizing it was a unisex bathroom — to try and escape Karim.

“But he started following me inside. I pushed him out and said, ‘You can’t come in here,'” the woman said. “But he followed me in.”

She said she went into the stall and stood with her back to the door to keep him out. But Karim, she said, then crawled underneath the wall and into the stall with her, where he raped her. “They are saying it was a sexual assault,” the distraught woman said. “This goes way beyond just an assault. This was rape.”

The woman reported the assault to S4 security personnel who found Karim and held him until police arrived. He was jailed at Dallas County Jail on $25,000 bond, but appears to have posted bond and been released.

The victim said that Karim told her he lives in Los Angeles and was visiting Dallas “just partying with his cousin.” However, a public records search incidates that a man named Prince Karim, with the same birthdate as the arrested suspect, lives in an apartment in Southwest Arlington and has a Texas driver’s license.

The victim also said that the photo of Karim supplied by Dallas police “is not the same photo of him that they gave me. That’s not what he looked like that night. It’s not what he looked like when he was arrested.” (The photo with this post is the photo provided by Dallas police. We will update the post with the other photo once we receive it.)

 

Dallas PD’s LGBT Liaison Officer Laura Martin has pointed out that “sexual assault” and “rape” are two different terms for the same thing. “Sexual assault” is the penal code language for “rape,” and any forced sexual contact is considered rape. For a complete legal definition, check here, and scroll down Section 22.011.

—  Tammye Nash

Man arrested for sexual assault at S4

Prince Karim

Prince Karim

Dallas police have arrested a 31-year-old for sexually assaulting a woman inside a Cedar Springs nightclub early Sunday morning, Jan. 17.

Police said Prince Karim, a Middle Eastern man, met the woman at S4 and sexually assaulted her inside the club “where he was later apprehended.” Karim was charged with sexual assault, a 2nd degree felony. He was jailed, with  bond was set at $25,000. A search of the Dallas County Jail records on Tuesday morning did not locate Karim among the jail’s inmates, indicating he likely has posted bond and been released.

Gregg Kilhoffer, president of Caven Enterprises, which owns and operates S4, said Tuesday that after being assaulted, the victim went club security personnel who found Karim inside the club and held him until police arrived.

Killhofer said he doesn’t know any details about the incident and is waiting for police to contact him with more information. He did, however, criticize a report published by Dallas Morning News calling the incident a “rape.” “It was a sexual assault, but we have no indication that it was a rape,” Kilhoffer noted.

Dallas Voice has left a message with a police spokesman seeking more information.

—  Tammye Nash

Man sentenced for deadly sexual assault with HIV as the weapon

CrowleyMatthew Louis Reese, 31, was given 95 years in prison this week, in part because he gave HIV to a minor.

The Dallas man pleaded guilty to three charges — aggravated sexual assault of a child with a deadly weapon, aggravated sexual assault with serious bodily injury and sexual assault of a child. The deadly weapon is HIV.

The victim was a 15 year-old girl at the time. She is now 17.

The two met on a chat line and spoke for months before first having sex. Reese never told the girl he had HIV and did not use a condom.

Missing from any reports is why the girl’s parents bore no responsibility for monitoring who their 15-year-old daughter was dating.

Apparently Reese was not in treatment for his HIV and had a viral load count high enough to pass along the disease. He must serve half of his sentence before he is eligible for parole.

—  David Taffet

A sobering look: Sexual assault on men

Men cant

Buzzfeed is the website known for its lists — 5 most embarrassing skiing accidents, 30 least appetizing desserts, 11 whoreiest women in Hollywood, etc. Most of them are meaningless drivel (we read anyway).

So it’s nice that this list actually has some heft and meaning.

After all the press about sexual assault within the military — including assault on men — it’s interesting to see this list of 27 men (not in the armed services) who report being raped: Sometime by other men, sometimes by women. Some are female-to-male transgender. All are holding up signs that recount what their victimizers said to them. It’s horrifying and compelling.

—  Arnold Wayne Jones

Man arrested for alleged sexual assault, stabbing of 17-year-old was a regular at gay bar Garlow’s

Tommy Robinson

GUN BARREL CITY — Tommy Robinson, 59, who is jailed in Dallas on a $1.5 million bond for the alleged stabbing and sexual assault of a 17-year-old girl in Oak Lawn was a familiar face in the Cedar Creek Lake gay bar Garlow’s.

Robinson, who went by the nickname “Hollywood,” frequented the bar as early as a year ago, but he told other customers he wasn’t gay. He also told others he suffered from a mental illness, and that was why he could not drink alcohol.

Robinson wore black attire and sported a pair of silver-framed sunglasses even at night. Other customers recognized that Robinson was eccentric, but he was generally viewed as harmless.

Robinson obviously was comfortable in a gay bar setting and freely mixed with other gay patrons.

A Dallas police detective in charge of investigating the crime confirmed he was aware Robinson had lived in the Cedar Creek Lake area prior to his arrest in Dallas. At the time of his arrest, he was homeless and was captured while bathing in a stream in Oak Lawn, according to multiple Dallas media reports.

—  admin

Ex-principal of TX youth prison denies he gave inmates blow jobs, promised them birthday cake

John Paul Hernandez

The former principal of a West Texas juvenile prison testified Thursday that five male inmates who accuse him of sexual abuse made up the allegations in a possible attempt to get released from the facility.

John Paul Hernandez, 45, is on trial for 11 counts of abusing the inmates, including sexual assault. Hernandez’s former assistant at the West Texas State School in Pyote, Ray Brookins, was sentenced to 10 years in prison on similar charges last year. The abuse scandal led to an overhaul of the Texas Youth Commission.

Hernandez and Brookins allegedly gave the young male inmates candy and promised them birthday cake in exchange for abusing them. In some cases, the inmates were threatened with retaliation if they didn’t go along. Hernandez and Brookins would summon the inmates from their dorms late at night and take them to ball fields and darkened classrooms to carry out the abuse, according to a 2005 report by the Texas Rangers.

When authorities searched Brookins’ state-owned house at the school, they found a 16-year-old living there along with hundreds of pornographic videos, magazines and various sex toys.

All five of the inmates testified against Hernandez this week during his trial. Prosecutors are continuing their cross-examination of Hernandez today.

—  John Wright

Homelessness and LGBT youth

The figures are staggering. Between 1.6 million to 2.8 million homeless youth in our country! More staggering still is the data that shows up to 40 percent of those homeless are LGBT youth.

For some reason I never considered homelessness as an LGBT issue but the figures speak clearly, it is. The reasons for these kids ending up on the street are myriad, but they share some disturbing similarities.

A report from the Center for American Progress shows 58 percent of them are victims of sexual assault. This is much higher than their straight counterparts. Additionally, 62 percent suffer discrimination from their families because of their sexual orientation. I would imagine that is a big cause of the problem.

The report is eye-opening and worth your time to read. Beyond understanding the problem is doing something about it. That will take both our community and our local state and federal governments getting involved and working to change this.

— Hardy Haberman, Dungeon Diary

—  Dallasvoice

Victim not cooperating with Dallas police in alleged sexual assault that began at gay bar

Last week I wrote about an alleged sexual assault involving a man who reported to police that he was sexually assaulted by two men after they placed a drug in his drink at Station 4. I followed up with Dallas police yesterday to find out whether any additional information was available. Here’s what Sr. Cpl. Kevin Janse told me:

“Detectives have tried three times to get ahold of victim. They have been unsuccessful and he is not returning calls. So there is nothing new to report.”

As is standard in sexual assault cases, police are not releasing the alleged victim’s name, so we have no way of trying to contact him. Regardless of whether this person’s account is true, it raises an interesting question: How common is “date rape” in the gay community?оптимизация сайтов под поисковики

—  John Wright