McCoy, right, and his husband Paul Cross

James W. McCoy Jr., 43, died on July 10, 2012.

He graduated from Mesquite High School where he played football and was a member of the National Honor Society. He graduated from theUniversity of Texas at Arlington with a bachelor’s degree in information systems.

McCoy met his husband, Paul Cross, on Sept. 27, 2002, and they were married in San Francisco on Oct. 4, 2008, making theirs one of the California marriages that remained legal after Proposition 8. He worked at AXIOM Systems as a healthcare IT consultant.

McCoy was a member of Cheer Dallas, participated in the Pegasus Slowpitch Softball Association as a player and coach, and rode with team Slow Spokes in the Lone Star Ride Fighting AIDS. Since 2001, he went to Camp Willowswish every year and was named Miss Camp Willowswish America 2001. McCoy loved country and western dancing at the Round-Up, Christmas and Halloween parties, group trips to Screams, birthdays parties with family and friends, as well as hosting outdoor movie nights at the pool at their home in Northwest Dallas and hanging out with friends at Two Corks and a Bottle.

He is survived by his husband, Paul Cross; his mother, Cynthia McCoy; father and stepmother, James W. and Jana McCoy; sister and brother-in-law, Jeana McCoy Enochs and Edgar Hill Enochs III; nieces and nephews, Brittany Caviness and Jordan and Emma Enochs; parents-in-law, Sam and Laurie Batt; and his many aunts, uncles, close friends and relatives across the country.

In lieu of flowers, donations can be made to ( to help pay medical and funeral expenses. Money collected over the goal will be split between the Pancreatic Cancer Network and the Lone Star Ride.

The funeral will take place at Cathedral of Hope, 5910 Cedar Springs Road, on Friday, July 13, at 10 a.m. followed by burial at Restland Cemetery, 13005 Greenville Ave.

This article appeared in the Dallas Voice print edition July 13, 2012.