Posted on 04 Dec 2015 at 7:50am

As the killing continues, we have to move beyond hyperbole and hate Enough. No more. Really. No more shootings. No more bombings. No more hatred and rage. Less than a month ago, on Nov. 13, terrorists associated with DAESH (some people incorrectly call the group ISIS or ISIL) murdered 130 people and injured 360-plus more [...]

Where do we stand? Where do we go? How do we get there?

Posted on 27 Nov 2015 at 7:50am

  After the recent attacks in Oak Lawn, let’s take this moment to assess where we are, how we got here and where we want to be. A dozen violent attacks on gay men constitutes a security crisis in Cedar Springs, but long before we reached that number, Dallas Voice and other media had alerted [...]

HIV: Yep, it’s still a thing

Posted on 27 Nov 2015 at 7:45am

  A few weeks ago, it became official: HIV is loathsome. It all had started so innocently. Back in 2013, the New York State Division of Human Rights posted a public awareness ad that featured the image of a woman alongside the text “I AM POSITIVE(+)” and “I HAVE RIGHTS.” The intent was to inform [...]

The primal need to know: How was Charlie Sheen infected?

Posted on 20 Nov 2015 at 7:40am

What is the first question that came to your mind when you found out that Charlie Sheen is HIV-positive? Was it, “So how’d he get it?” We probably want to know how Sheen was infected so we can better understand how we feel about him. And by the way, this is OK. Everyone’s feelings are [...]

They bought the lie

Posted on 13 Nov 2015 at 7:35am

I used to live and work in Houston. I spent nearly five years there, co-hosting the “Morning Buzz” on the alternative station, 94.5 The Buzz. The people I met in Houston were warm, welcoming people who seemed like they had good heads on their shoulders. I formed a charity, called “Santa Letters,” to bring Christmas [...]

A wake-up call from Houston

Posted on 06 Nov 2015 at 7:50am

HERO’s defeat proves again that legal rulings don’t change hearts and minds   The LGBT community in this country has been riding a wave of euphoria for months now, celebrating the fact that the U.S. Supreme Court — the highest court in the land — has ruled that, yes, our right to legally marry the [...]

Creep of the Week

Posted on 30 Oct 2015 at 7:35am

Eric Metaxas warns against ‘compassionate’ YA adults I may be a grown-up, but I read a lot of young adult fiction aimed at LGBT teens. Wait. I shouldn’t use the term “aimed at” less I fuel the fire behind Eric Metaxas’ idea that YA books are “disproportionately gay” and are trying to turn young people [...]

A quarter-century of kink

Posted on 16 Oct 2015 at 7:35am

Beyond Vanilla started 25 years ago as a small safe-sex workshop   It was a Thursday night in 1990 and I had decided to attend a meeting at the Resource Center presented by the unlikely pairing of the Dallas County Health Department and a group called the Disciples of de Sade. It was a class [...]

Hello Beautiful

Posted on 09 Oct 2015 at 7:40am

Just taking the time to tell someone how beautiful they are can make all the difference   Back in the day, when I was married and trying to get through life as a guy, I didn’t fully appreciate a whole slew of things about what life was like as a woman. My ex-wife liked horses [...]

Claiming Pride every day

Posted on 02 Oct 2015 at 8:10am

I was invited to capture what Pride means to me. For many that is an easy request.  It means solidarity, social justice, becoming more visible, finding a voice, being with a larger community with a similar story to commiserate and celebrate. I remember my very first Pride parade many, many years ago in Austin. The [...]