Facing Fear

Posted on 28 Apr 2017 at 7:55am

  It was not the kind of reaction I expected. I had written what I thought was an opinion piece on the new administration’s attitudes toward LGBTQ people and how we needed to be extra vigilant to preserve what advances we have made in securing our rights.  I don’t get a lot of personal responses […]

Anger, love and a bridge

Posted on 28 Apr 2017 at 7:50am

  I was in my 20s, and I was angry. Angry that my then-girlfriend got involuntarily recalled into George W. Bush’s Operation Iraqi Freedom. Angry that she was forced to fight and potentially die in a war that neither of us supported. And angry that even with all that, she couldn’t get married because she […]

It’s hard to hate up close

Posted on 21 Apr 2017 at 7:50am

Survivor hopefully holds a lesson for Texas legislators   My heart broke recently when Jeff Varner, a gay man, outed Zeke Smith as a transgender man on Survivor. As has been often stated, outing a trans person is an act of violence. Doing so can put our jobs and even our lives in jeopardy. It’s […]

Whatever happened to the ‘friendly skies’?

Posted on 14 Apr 2017 at 7:35am

Taking a look back at some of the airlines’ slogans that no longer ring true   Not so long ago, airlines portrayed air travel as fun and adventuresome — a big party in the sky. To bolster that image, the airlines adopted appropriate slogans in the 1940s to attract new passengers. And for several decades, […]

My white skin privilege

Posted on 07 Apr 2017 at 8:10am

  I grew up poor. I started working when I was 14 so that I would be able to buy better school clothes than what my parents could afford. This allowed me to pretend I had the comfortable life that I would one day achieve. But I didn’t have that comfortable life. Not then. I […]

On marriage, being gay and asking your born-again parents for their blessing

Posted on 31 Mar 2017 at 8:00am

I was never the kind of girl who daydreamed about her perfect wedding day — the perfect white dress, the perfect location . . . the perfect man. Hell, I wasn’t even the kind of girl who thought about getting married period. Marriage was an antiquated tradition that I never wanted to be a part […]

SB 6 and the art of funding through Panic

Posted on 24 Mar 2017 at 7:50am

I’m getting a little annoyed with every national advocacy organization you can imagine sending out the same message: “SB6, the Texas bathroom bill, is advancing. Call your state representatives and tell them the bill is terrible and opposed by law enforcement and business groups. Oh, and send us money, because that’s really the only way […]

The grand delusion

Posted on 17 Mar 2017 at 9:25am

This isn’t River City, and Trump isn’t the Music Man   This morning I checked in on a GoFundMe campaign. I like GoFundMe. It’s a way to give an extended community a chance to participate in charitable or entrepreneurial endeavors. It can be effective in helping friends out or funding special events. One event that […]

Remembering — Recordando

Posted on 10 Mar 2017 at 7:50am

Dallas’ LGBT Latino history site is born Recordando: It’s Spanish for “remembering.” I have documented my life through photographs because my parents didn’t. With nine people in our family,taking photos and processing film were a luxuries they couldn’t afford. That was long before digital cameras and cell phones, of course. I was in my mid-twenties […]

The messages in the Oscars

Posted on 03 Mar 2017 at 7:50am

If you really want to understand what’s going on in our world, both globally and within our LGBTQIA community, you can learn all you need to from last Sunday night’s Oscars awards show. And I don’t just mean the fiasco that happened when Warren Beatty and Faye Dunaway pulled a Steve Harvey and called out […]