Ex-gay leader marries his husband in Oklahoma


The happy ex-ex-gay newlywed couple

John Smid, a leader of the ex-gay group Love in Action, married his partner Larry McQueen on Nov. 16 in a ceremony held in Oklahoma.

Several years ago, we ran a story about a Dallas couple tortured with so-called “reparative therapy” by Love in Action. After the story ran, the ex-gays involved in their ordeal who had all become ex-ex-gays by then, contacted the couple to apologize for their involvement.

The couple live in Paris, Texas, where marriage — thanks to the hard work of people like Smid — is still not legal. Nice that he lives close enough to marriage equality state Oklahoma that he can take advantage of their liberal marriage laws.

We wish Smid — who has done so much harm to so many gay people — and his husband happiness.

—  David Taffet

Gay adult film actor Arpad Miklos dies; anti-gay activist caught on Grindr

arpad-miklosThese two stories caught my eye in the gayniverse this morning:

• Arpad Miklos, pictured, the adult film star of more than 50 porn movies discovered by Kristen Bjorn, was found dead in his apartment at age 45, the victim of an apparent suicide, according to Out.com. Not much else is known at this time, other than Miklos is merely the latest gay porn icon to pass in recent months. Josh Weston died last year of AIDS-related illness, and Falcon star Erik Rhoades died last summer.

• We also learned that Matt Moore, an “ex-gay” blogger for the Christian Post, confirmed that the photo and profile on gay hook-up app Grindr recently is, in fact, his. Like a lot of other “former” gays caught on the prowl, Moore merely acknowledged the “lapse” and moved on. “I am wrong in having been on Grindr. I haven’t changed my views on homosexuality, the Bible,” he told atheist blogger Zinnia Jones.

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WATCH: Michele and Marcus save marriage

Chuck Smith with Equality Texas posted this video on Facebook, and I enjoyed it so much I wanted to share it here.

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New rumor: Could Rick Perry be ‘ex-gay’?

Days after allegations that he’s closeted resurface, governor announces N.H. trip to speak to group promoting ‘ex-gay’ therapy

DAVID WEBB | The Rare Reporter

Sometimes the comments posted by readers of LGBT newspapers provide a fascinating glimpse into the mindsets of our community’s greatest adversaries because they are often part of the audience.

One that caught my eye recently was posted by a reader who objected to criticism directed against Texas Gov. Rick Perry for agreeing to headline the annual dinner on Oct. 28 of the anti-gay group Cornerstone Action in New Hampshire. The engagement is seen as further evidence that Perry is leaning toward running for the Republican Party’s presidential nomination in 2012 because New Hampshire is the first presidential primary state.

That put Perry on the LGBT community’s radar again because Cornerstone Action advocates the repeal of the state’s same-sex marriage law, and it promotes the work of so-called “ex-gay therapy” groups such as Exodus International, Love Won Out and the National Association for Research and Therapy of Homosexuality. The conversion therapy practiced by these groups has been denounced by the American Psychological Association, which refutes the notion that homosexuality is a mental illness.

The offended reader who was obviously a proponent of “ex-gay therapy” and a fan of Perry’s wrote, “Many, many people tormented with same-sex attraction have benefited from therapy. The homosexual pressure groups have no moral right to speak for these individuals.”

Only one reason comes to mind why someone would feel tormented by same-sex attraction, and that would be a result of being taught that homosexuality is evil and an aberration. Those same teachings would make someone who is heterosexual fear and despise someone who is openly gay. And if someone is gay and doesn’t want to be, it’s pretty easy to see how they would express homophobic opinions to help keep their shameful secret.

Groups such as Exodus International claim they are not attempting to influence “people who are perfectly happy living their gay life,” but the readers’ remarks make it clear they are monitoring everything we do by reading our publications. They also attend our public events surreptitiously when they are not staging protests, which prompts the question, “Why all the interest if suppression is not their goal?”

Perry’s camp announced the New Hampshire engagement after his appearance the previous weekend at the Republican Leadership Conference in New Orleans, where participants, enamored of his conservative social and fiscal policies, reportedly shouted, “Run, Rick, run.”

The announcement of the New Hampshire appearance was viewed as humorous by some because it followed on the heels of the re-emergence of widespread rumors that Perry is secretly gay and that his wife, Anita, almost divorced him over it. The rumors that the governor’s wife caught him involved in a sexual act with another high-level male government official became so widespread several years ago that Perry denied them in an Austin newspaper story, calling them a “political smear campaign.” A spokesman for the governor has acknowledged his staff is prepared to address the rumors again should he run for the presidential nomination.

Although almost no one actually believes Perry is secretly gay, his alignment at this point with a group so involved with the promotion of “ex-gay therapy” seems a little peculiar. After all, many of the proponents of ex-gay therapy claim they are recovered homosexuals, and several have been exposed by gay activists as frauds who still engage in same-sex activity.

With all of the rumors that previously circulated about Perry being gay and others claiming he cheated on his wife with other women, it would seem like the governor and his staff might be concerned that the next wild tale could be that he went to ex-gay therapy. If not, maybe the governor thinks this is a way of appearing to be compassionate toward a group of people his actions seem to indicate he despises.

Having talked with several of Perry’s and his wife’s high school and college acquaintances —some of whom are gay and lesbian — over the years, I doubt that Perry was always so intolerant and self-righteous. In fact, I understand the governor sowed quite a few wild oats in his younger years, to put it in the vernacular of his West Texas roots.

But somewhere along the line during his 26-year career in Texas politics, Perry, who is a Methodist, apparently realized that conservative religious zealots would propel him to fame, fortune and power if he pandered to them. That, unfortunately, puts the LGBT community in the crosshairs of Perry’s aim, so it is a real possibility that the rest of the nation is going to experience what it is like to live in a state where an over-the-top, anti-gay elected official sets the political tone. •

David Webb is a veteran journalist who has covered LGBT issues for the mainstream and alternative media for three decades. E-mail him at davidwaynewebb@yahoo.com.

—  John Wright

This JONAH has one whale of a story to tell

Jewish ‘ex-gay’ group is just another attempt to get money from conflicted gay men for ‘therapies’ that do nothing but let closeted gays get their jollies through others’ fears

Hardy Haberman Flagging Left

JonahWith all the hubbub of the Fred Phelps Cult making a visit here and the oil spill continuing in the Gulf, one story seems to have dropped through the cracks. Luckily, Wayne Besen at the blog Truth Wins Out (TruthWinsOut.org)  has been on it like a dog on a bone. It involves a group called JONAH.

Aside from the biblical acronym, the group’s full name is Jews Offering New Alternatives to Homosexuality, and it is part of the ex-gay industry.

Now before anyone corrects me and notes that it should be called the “ex-gay movement,” let me explain.

Not only has the whole “ex-gay” or “reparative therapy” thing been debunked by the scientific community, no major scientific group actually approves “treatment” to change sexual orientation. No one, from the American Psychiatric Association to the American Psychological Association, even considers homosexuality something to be cured.

So what you have with the ex-gay industry is a bogus cure in search of a disease, and more to the point, several organizations who have found that the whole useless endeavor can generate a lot of cash.

So, far from being a grassroots movement, the ex-gay scam is a business, albeit “non-profit.”

Meanwhile, back to JONAH.

The group was co-founded by a fellow named Arthur Abba Goldberg. Seems he was known 20 years ago in the financial community as “Abba Cadabra” for his apparent wizardry with money. That wizardry turned out to be a scam, and Goldberg was convicted of federal mail and wire fraud as well as a conspiracy to sell worthless bonds.

The guy is a real peach, and now he has reinvented himself as the leader of an “ex-gay” therapy group.

One of his “life coaches,” Alan Downing, recently has been implicated in something a bit more touchy-feely than you would expect from an ex-gay. According to men who went to Downing, part of his treatment involves having clients strip naked in front of a mirror while touching parts of their bodies, including their genitals.

The activity is observed by the “therapist” while he encourages the subject to “internalize his masculinity.” If this sounds like a voyeurs’ delight, you haven’t heard anything yet.

Downing and Goldberg are part of another bunch called “People Can Change.” A big part of their “therapy” is participating in a retreat near Phoenix, called “Journey into Manhood.” According to a writer, Ted Cox, who secretly attended one of the sessions, for $650 a pop you get to participate in a group grope for the weekend.

Now if this sounds homoerotic, what goes on there seems even less like therapy and more like just plain sex. Participants make the journey to manhood by hugging, touching and lying on each other in a “cuddle room.” Manly stuff!

If this were a Body Electric retreat I could understand it, but for something that is supposed to “cure” homosexuality, it seems to be far off the mark.

My whole point is that the “ex-gay” industry is rife with scandal. From George Rekers, the anti- gay activist who hired a “rent boy” for a European vacation, to John Paulk, former chairman of Exodus International who was photographed coming out of a gay bar in Washington D.C., the ex-gays just can’t seem to keep their gay from coming out.

I fully expect to hear about even more surprises from the reparative therapy scam in the future. But I shouldn’t be surprised.

It all stems from the greed of folks who see in gay men a vulnerability, especially if those gay men have not fully accepted their own sexuality. It is the worst kind of deceit, to prey on the psychologically vulnerable and manipulate them for cash.

It is unfortunate that they hide behind pseudo-religious organizations that protect their questionable programs as “free speech.” Maybe as more and more of these groups are exposed and debunked, their victims will see the futility of trying to change and embrace their sexuality.

That will also take society to change as well, but luckily it is already happening. Public opinion surveys show more and more Americans affirm the idea of equal rights including marriage for LGBT people.

It is my hope that some day those unhappy people who turned to groups like JONAH will emerge like the biblical Jonah from the whale into the sunlight. Then they can work on frying the bigger fish, accepting their sexuality and enjoying their lives.

Hardy Haberman is a longtime local LGBT activist and a member of Stonewall Democrats of Dallas. His blog is at http://dungeondiary.blogspot.com.

This article appeared in the Dallas Voice print edition July 23, 2010.

—  Michael Stephens

Getting to know the male prostitute hired by anti-gay leader George Alan Rekers


Boy oh (Rent)boy, the blogosphere is having a field day with this one.

As I reported earlier, anti-gay kingpin George Rekers was effectively outed by a  Miami newspaper after he hired a male escort from the Web site RentBoy.com.

So, given the apparent expertise with which certain folks seem to navigate such sites, it was just a matter of time before photos turned up of the escort, who’s being called “Lucien.”

And here they are, courtesy of Unzipped. You can view the full Rentboy profile for Lucien, or “BOYNEXTDOOR” (how original!), by going here.

According to Joe.My.God., Rekers is sticking by his original claim that he hired Lucien to help carry his luggage, but he’s also added a nice twist: He was just trying to save the poor little Rentboy:

“Contrary to false gossip, innuendo, and slander about me, I do not in any way ‘hate’ homosexuals, but I seek to lovingly share two types of messages to them, as I did with the young man called ‘Lucien’ in the news story: [1] It is possible to cease homosexual practices to avoid the unacceptable health risks associated with that behavior, and [2] the most important decision one can make is to establish a relationship with God for all eternity by trusting in Jesus Christ’s sacrifice on the cross for the forgiveness of your sins, including homosexual sins. If you talk with my travel assistant that the story called ‘Lucien,’ you will find I spent a great deal of time sharing scientific information on the desirability of abandoning homosexual intercourse, and I shared the Gospel of Jesus Christ with him in great detail.”

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—  John Wright

Pastor Joey Faust invites gays to the protest in FW

Pastor Joey Faust of Kingdom Baptist Church
Pastor Joey Faust of Kingdom Baptist Church

I just received an e-mail from Pastor Joey Faust with this title: “Fundamentalists invite more homosexuals to their own advertised protest.”

I am not sure if Pastor Faust is inviting LGBT people to the protest planned by LGBT people outside the Fort Worth City Hall on Tuesday, or if he means LGBT people are invited to the protest his own group is planning. Since I am not sure, I am just going to let Pastor Faust speak for himself. Here’s his e-mail:

“Fundamentalist street preachers are organizing with signs, banners and voices, on Tuesday, at the Fort Worth City Council meeting. We are looking forward to the opportunity to preach to homosexuals about the exceeding wickedness and perversion of sodomy. We plan to awaken their natural light of conscience (against immorality) that they have labored hard to suppress. We will also be preaching on the distinction between the temporary ceremonial law, and the timeless, moral commandments (such as prohibitions against sodomy, bestiality, etc.), revealed in the Bible. We will also show from the Scriptures that there is a distinction between the least of the commandments, and the great commandments. There are greater sins (mruder, fornication, adultery, sodomy, witchcraft, etc.), and lesser sins such as failing to tithe, etc. (Matthew 5:19-20, John 19:11, etc.). It is possible we will also have a radical, ex-homosexual to testify with us about how Jesus can gloriously change anyone. We do hope many homosexuals will attend this protest!

“Recently, a few of us countered the homosexual ‘kiss in’ in Fort Worth. A few years ago, we organized ‘Protest Gay Day,’ and protested the so-called ‘gay day’ at the Ranger stadium. Since this time, other Christians (male and female) have been motivated to warn homosexuals of their coming judgment. Even if they have believed on Jesus for forgiveness of sins eternally, God still punishes sin in this life, and during the coming 1000 year Kingdom. Therefore, the homosexuals that have really believed in Jesus, will still burn in hell 1000 years during this Kingdom. Those who do not believe in Jesus, will of course burn forever, like all unbelievers. However, sins like sodomy cause people to have a hotter torment.

“As independent, fundamental Baptists, we historically believe in freedom of expression and religious liberty. As the famous American historian has documented: ‘Freedom of conscience, unlimited freedom of mind, was from the first the trophy of the Baptists.’ Likewise, John Locke wrote: ‘The Baptists were the first propounders of absolute liberty, just and true liberty, equal and impartial liberty.’ Therefore, let it be plainly stated that we have no desire to limit anyone’s right to proclaim their views. But it appears that many in the homosexual community believe that ‘freedom of expression’ means that everyone else must agree with their views, and their sinful lifestyle! They believe that if they are publicly opposed, this means that they are being denied their freedom. To many in this community, ‘toleration’ means everyone must applaud them. This was brought out plainly on Sunday evening in downtown Fort Worth. As a group from our church countered their own, public protest, the homosexuals present began to shout that we were breaking the First Amendment! How quick they are to play the ‘victim.’ Interestingly, when questioned about other perversions such as pedophilia and bestiality, these particular homosexuals stated on Sunday night that such groups should be denied equal rights!

“Sincerely, Pastor Joey Faust”

Pastor Faust’s e-mail to me did not include the name of his church, but I did find a Web page for Kingdom Baptist Church in Venus, Texas , with Joey Faust as pastor. He is also, apparently, the author of a book called “The Rod: Will God Spare It?’ The Web site has pages outlining what the church’s beliefs are and links to Faust’s sermons, both in audio and video format. Just in case anyone wants to study up before Tuesday night.копирайтинг текста онлайнтехнология продвижение сайта

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