Dallas makes top 20 list for its sugar daddy population, but No. 1 for gay men

Earlier this week, I learned that Dallas ranks in the top 20 of cities with the most Sugar Daddies per capita. Number 16 to be exact. This news came from Brandon Wade, the founder and CEO of SeekingArrangement.com which touts itself as the largest sugar daddy dating site. On Wednesday, he released a statistical study based on five years of data from this website profiling where the generous rich men are. You can read the entire study after the jump.

While Dallas did make the top 20, number 16 really just didn’t come off as an impressive number, right? That is until I asked about stats on same-sex/bisexual breakdowns. That turned out to be quite interesting, at least for gay men. Public relations manager Jenn Gwynn told me that the site is open to same-sex arrangements and that there are active profiles on the site for those seeking from both sides of the equation.

Our site does cater to same sex relationships, both Sugar Daddy-(Male) Sugar Baby and Sugar Mommy-(Female) Sugar Baby. There are also many instances where profiles identify as “seeking” either sex.

On average, nationwide, his sugar preferences, 95.6% are heterosexual, 3.8% are homosexual, and 0.6% are bisexual. But in Dallas, it is: 94.1% heterosexual, 5.2% homosexual, 0.7% bisexual. So Dallas as a whole, has more gay sugar daddies than the average sugar daddy in America. There are 12.1 male sugar babies in Dallas for every 1 sugar daddy.

So it would appear Dallas is actually no. 1 — in our eyes. Wade added that “In the Dallas Metropolitan area, approximately 1.54 out of every 1000 adult men are Sugar Daddies.  A typical Dallas sugar daddy has an average income of $268,911, is worth about $5.5 million, and spends approximately $3,969 a month on his sugar addiction.”

Which really begs the question: Who needs MegaMillions?

—  Rich Lopez

Rev. Amy Delong, tried by Methodists for being a lesbian, to preach at Bering Memorial Methodist Church

Rev. Amy DeLong

Paperwork can be the bane of any job. For Rev. Amy Delong a simple annual report catapulted her into the maelstrom of the United Methodist Church’s debate on accepting LGBT people. DeLong visits Houston’s Bering Memorial United Methodist Church (1440 Harold) on Sunday, Feb. 12 to preach at both the 8:30 and 10:50 service.

In 2009 DeLong was approached by two women who wanted to get married. After conducting premarital counseling with the couple Delong agreed to perform the ceremony. As a clergy person, DeLong was required to report on her activities at the end of the year, including any weddings she had performed. She knew that the Methodist Church did not allow same-sex marriage but thought “I don’t know if anybody even reads these.” Boy, was she wrong!

With-in three days she was hauled into the her boss’s (the bishop) office. DeLong’s relationship with her partner Val was well known to her colleagues. “I’ve never had a bishop or a leader in the church or a pastor who didn’t know that I was gay,” says DeLong. “Everyone knows Val.” But the church was determined now to make an example of her, and DeLon’s relationship would now be an issue.

In 2011 DeLong was tried in the church’s court with violating the Methodist “Book of Discipline” by being in a same-sex relationship and by performing a same-sex wedding. During the trial she refused to answer pointed questions about her and her partner’s sex life. “No heterosexual couples are ever asked if they
still engage in genital contact in their marriages,” says DeLong. That refusal left the court with no evidence against her on the first charge.

She was convicted of performing the wedding and suspended from ministry for 20 days. The court also required DeLong to work with a group of ministers to prepare a statement on how to “help resolve issues that harm the clergy covenant, create an advesarial spirit or lead to future trails.” “This sentence is complicated,” says DeLong. “It doesn’t lend itself well to media soundbites. So a lot of folks have been saying to me ‘I can’t tell, is this penalty good?’” DeLong responds with a resounding “Yes!” Saying that she welcomes the opportunity to write, teach and study on a topic dear to her heart.

DeLong recalls that during that initial meeting in the bishop’s office one of the bishop’s assistants referred to her as a “self-avowed practicing homosexual.” To which she responded “Val and I aren’t practicing any more… we are pretty good at it by now.” The assistant laughed. More than anything that is the impression one gets of DeLong: someone with a lot of humor and aplomb who is unwilling to back down from a fight for justice.

After the jump watch a clip of DeLong talking about her experience.

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Kiss-in seeks domestic partner benefits for U of H

Pucker up!

Valentine’s Day is next Tuesday, while some battle the supermarket crowds for chocolate and champagne and others battle  that soul-sucking feeling that they will be alone forever, students at the University of Houston will be battling for equal benefits for LGBT employees.

“Our LGBT faculty and staff at the University of Houston are not given the same benefits as their heterosexual counterparts,” says James Lee, one of the student organizers. “This rally is an issue campaign to let administration know we care about our professors, directors and advisers and we think they all deserve to be treated equally.”

Lee explains that the event is not just for same-sex couples, the organizers want opposite-sex couples to participate to help demonstrate that straight and LGBT relationships are the same.  Got no one to kiss? No problem, says Lee, “We will have rally signs and other goodies you can show support with.”

The smooch-fest kicks off at 12:30 pm in Butler Plaza (in front of the MD Anderson Library).

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WATCH: Is this Bud for us? New Budweiser ad appears to support gays in the military

Budweiser has released a new military-themed ad that some folks are saying is also a “pro-gays-in-the-military” ad.

The ad starts off with a soldier calling another guy and saying, “Hey man. I’m coming home.” Then in a split-screen, continues with scenes of the soldier making his way home while the other guy goes about planning and organizing a welcome home party, and then being the first one to step forward and hug the soldier when he gets home.

If it is a “gay” ad, it isn’t, well, flamboyantly gay. And that’s perfectly fine, since there are many, many, many LGBT people out there — including many of our men and women in uniform — who are definitely not flamboyantly gay themselves. We deserve to have our diverse community portrayed (and honored and celebrated) realistically in all our diversity.

Is this a gay ad? Did Budweiser mean for it to be a gay ad? Huffington Post has a poll up, and readers there are pretty evenly split, with 33 percent saying it is totally gay, 25 percent saying no way it’s gay, and 41 percent saying probably not but I can see why some folks think it is.

And AfterElton.com points out that “if you substituted a woman for [the guy the soldier calls first], it would read pretty much exactly like a heterosexual relationship.”

Only Budweiser knows for sure, of course. But — again, as AfterElton notes — this is a mega-big company with some pretty experienced advertising folks working for them, and do you really think they would let something so very obviously possibly gay slip through inadvertently?

Watch the ad yourself (below) and see what you think. All I know for sure is that I don’t drink beer of any kind, but if I did drink beer, I think I’d probably drink Bud.

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Johnny Weir Would’ve Picked Heterosexual If He Had A Choice

Guess what stupid celebrity meme I long ago tired of, and so did you? The whole "Johnny Weir came out in his book" headline, which the figure skater himself says is preposterous, because he was never in, even though he never acknowledged it. And if he talks about how he doesn't celebrate being BORN WHITE AND MALE one more time, Jesus, I'm going to triple Salchow up in here. We get it, Johnny. You don't want to be an activist. Now go back to shopping and being capital-F fabulous, OKTHXBI.

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Another gay day at the State Fair? Sorta kinda

As the State Fair winds down, the countdown is on to closing time on Sunday. But between now and then, there is lots to squeeze in. Fried Frito pies and corn dogs must still be had. And if you find the fried s’mores, tell me where they are. They seemed to have moved from their regular spot.

The unofficial official gay day was last weekend and we guess it went OK. But if you need some more fellowship and family, the Dallas Bears are heading out to the Fair on Saturday. The group put an open invitation out on Facebook to join them at noon at the main gate. But by the looks of the RSVPs and one guy’s comment, I imagine they are hoping for a few more to say yes:

Norman Come on there has to be more then just five of us going! Actually six I’m bringing a buddy with me.

In other bear news — which is really leather news but by the looks of it, bears fit in — the L.A. Eagle screened a preview of the upcoming movie Jackass 3D with star Johnny Knoxville in tow. The best part of it is they made it into a trailer for the flick. Yeah, Knoxville seems to know how the show plays up some major homo-eroticism when he talked to Vanity Fair.

“We always thought it was funny to force a heterosexual MTV generation to deal with all of our thongs and homoerotic humor. In many ways, all our gay humor has been a humanitarian attack against homophobia. We’ve been trying to rid the world of homophobia for years, and I think gay people really dig it too.”

Priceless.

—  Rich Lopez

Mario Cantone Welcomes Barbara Walters Back To The View In Completely Heterosexual Way

Be honest, Mario: You're happier to see Babs return to her gabfest not because America will receive any meaningful insights, but because it gave you the chance to dance around on stage with a gaggle of tuxedoed hotties.

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The Seattle Times models heterosexual privilege

Whenever someone says in the same sentence “I support LGBT equality” and “I’ll vote for the anti-equality bigot anyway”, I know I’m dealing with a bad case of heterosexual privilege.  The Seattle Times, which has consistently editorialized in favor of LGBT equality in the past, has just endorsed raging homophobe Jim Johnson for reelection to the Washington state Supreme Court.

You will recall that Johnson is the Washington Supreme Court justice who likened marriage equality to polygamy and wrote on the “unique and binary biological nature of marriage and its exclusive link with procreation and responsible child rearing” in his venomous anti-gay judgment upholding the state’s DOMA law.  While on the Supreme Court Johnson has also voted consistently in favor of Big Tobacco and his financial backers, the Building Industry Association of Washington as well as voted anti-environment and anti-tribal rights.

In their endorsement, the Seattle Times Editorial Board admits that Johnson used erroneous reasoning when he ruled to uphold WA’s DOMA, saying “Johnson argued that it was not the court’s business to change the traditional definition of marriage.” Yet they endorse his reelection, saying he’s “top-notch”.  This makes no sense whatsoever unless viewed through the lens of privilege.  Only people secure in the enjoyment of their own civil rights would dream of shrugging off such an egregious attack on the civil rights of others, then go the extra mile of promoting the culprit.

Vote for Stan Rumbaugh, who is running to replace Johnson.  Because Stan Rumbaugh is Johnson’s only challenger, the race will be won or lost in the August 17, 2010 primary.  You can still register to vote in the primary by showing up in person at your county elections office.  Deadline is Aug 9th.  Please help get the word out about Stan Rumbaugh by joining Rumbaugh on Facebook or making a donation to the Equal Rights Washington Political Action Committee, whose top priority is electing fair and impartial judges and pro-equality legislators.
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Matt Bomer’s Heterosexual White Collar Con Man Purposefully Strikes Out With the Ladies

Last night, USA Network's "most wanted" (get it?) series White Collar returned for its second season! Matt Bomer, the out-ish actor and partnered gay father of two, plays con man Neal Caffrey. He sometimes enjoys flirtations with members of the opposite sex!

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Steve Blow’s controversial blog post was also homophobic

In case you missed it, Dallas Morning News Metro columnist Steve Blow is under heavy fire for a blog item he posted yesterday about a Rowlett priest accused of inappropriately touching girls and women. Here’s what Blow’s original item said:

This is sad to say, but it’s almost refreshing to read about a priest accused of good, old-fashioned heterosexual perviness.

The dreadful stuff between priests and boys has been going on for so long that I almost forgot that some priests have more mainstream sexual hang-ups.

Again, I say, it’s time for a married priesthood.

In response to the ensuing outcry, the post was pulled from The DMN’s website, and Blow apologized. CBS 11 provides a recap of some of the criticism:

Bethany Anderson at D-Magazine’s FrontBurner blog responded by questioning his wording.

“I’m not so sure the women and girls molested by this priest find it refreshing,” she wrote. “Perhaps a better choice of words, friend?”

And at the Dallas Observer’s Unfair Park, Andrea Grimes called the post a “rape joke.”

“A penchant for molesting women and girls who are members of your church is not a ‘sexual hangup.’ It’s a crime. They are not asking for it. They did not consent,” she wrote.

I don’t disagree with Anderson and Grimes, but one thing no one has mentioned is the fact that Blow’s post was also patently homophobic. In saying that it’s “refreshing to read about a priest accused of good, old-fashioned heterosexual perviness,” Blow implies that pedophilia is somehow worse when it involves an adult male and an underage boy. Blow’s post also serves to perpetuate the myth that pedophilia and homosexuality are somehow linked, which is simply not true.

For the record, here’s Blow’s apology:

“If you have to explain humor, it has failed. My attempt here at some sardonic humor has obviously failed with a number of readers. I apologize,” read his post. “No offense was intended — except toward pervy priests of any persuasion.”

—  John Wright