The Gay Agenda • 03-25-16



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• Weekly: Lambda Weekly every Sunday at 1 p.m. on 89.3 KNON-FM with marriage and family therapist  guest Damon L. Jacobs discussing PreP; United Black Ellument hosts discussion on HIV/AIDS in the black community at 7 p.m. every second Tuesday of the month at 3116 Commerce St., Suite C; Fuse game night every Monday evening but the last of the month at 8 p.m. at the Fuse space in the ilume, 4123 Cedar Springs Road, Apt 2367; Fuse Connect every Wednesday from 7 p.m. at the Fuse Space. For more information call or e-mail Ruben Ramirez at 214-540-4500 or

• March 26: AIDS Walk South Dallas
5K walk benefits The Afiya Center at 8 a.m. at Martin Luther King Jr. Community Center, 2922 MLK Jr. Blvd. Register at

• March 27: Easter in Lee Park
Easter in the Park is back celebrating its 50th anniversary. Pooch Parade, bonnet contest, music and more. 1-4 p.m. Lee Park,
3333 Turtle Creek Blvd.

• March 31: Transgender Day of Visibility

• April 1: Compassion Fatigue SymposiumEduCare presents the fifth annual
Compassion Fatigue Symposium sponsored by organizations including Lambda Legal and AIDS Arms from 8:15 a.m.-5 p.m. at Lovers Lane United Methodist Church, 9200 Inwood Road. $30 early bird registration. $35 after March 1. Registration closes March 29.

• April 2: Gay and Lesbian Fund for Dallas Project Ruffway Benefit
Gay and Lesbian Fund for Dallas benefiting the SPCA of Texas includes cocktails, hors d’oeuvres, a DJ spinning the latest music, a silent auction, and a fashion show with models and their dogs wearing the Spring 2016 line. 7-10 p.m. at the Jan Rees-Jones Animal Care Center in Dallas, 2400 Lone Star Drive. For tickets and more information visit

• April 5: Woman to Woman 2016 Luncheon
Benefit for Jewish Family Service with guest speaker Goldie Hawn at Hyatt Regency Dallas, 300 Reunion Blvd. For more information call 972-437-9950 ext. 259 or visit

• April 9: Pups and Pints Benefit for Paws in the City
Benefit for adoption and animal welfare group from 3-6 p.m. at Deep Ellum Brewing Company, 2823 St. Louis St. $20 per person gets you a pint glass and 3 beer tickets.

• April 9: Walk a Mile in Her Shoes
Men’s march to stop rape, sexual assault and gender violence benefits the Dallas County Sexual Assault Coalition from 9 a.m.-noon beginning and ending on the Continental Pedestrian Bridge.

• April 9-May 30: Scarborough Renaissance Festival
Scarborough Faire features 200 quaint shoppes, food and grog from around the world, swordplay, comedy, birds of prey, magic and more. Weekends from 10 a.m.-7 p.m. at Scarborough Village, 2511 FM 66, Waxahachie.

• April 10: Oak Cliff Earth Day
Booths, exhibits, demonstrations. Free. Noon to 5 p.m. in Lake Cliff Park in the Demonstration Rose Garden, Colorado and Zang boulevards. The Oak Cliff Street car is free and runs every 30 minutes from Union Station to Lake Cliff Park.

• April 15: North Texas GLBT Chamber of Commerce Celebration of Excellence
Eleventh annual event honors awards in business excellence and to legislative champions at Renaissance Dallas Hotel,
2222 N. Stemmons Fwy.

• April 16: Gaybingo
Monthly fundraiser for Resource Center takes place 6-9 p.m. the third Saturday of the month at Rose Room at S4, 3911 Cedar Springs Road. Doors open at 5 p.m. For more information, call 214-540-4458 or email

• April 16: Oak Lawn Band presents ‘Storytellers’
Music from movies, theater, children’s folk tales and more. 3 p.m. at Oak Lawn United Methodist Church, 3014 Oak Lawn Ave.

• April 22: FashionCited turns 10
Designers Jonathan Aparicio, Petit Atelier, Edo Popken of Switzerland, Mario Alberto and others showcase their collections on celebrity models benefiting Legal Hospice of Texas. From 8-11 p.m. at Frontiers of Flight Museum, 6911 Lemmon Ave.

• April 25-May 1: National Black Transmen Conference
Fifth annual National Black Trans Advocacy Conference and awards gala. The Dallas/Addison Marriott Quorum, 14901 Dallas Parkway.

• April 22: 10th Annual FashionCITED Show
Annual fashion show and fundraiser for Legal Hospice of Texas. 8 p.m. at Frontiers of Flight Museum, 6911 Lemmon Ave., Dallas. For additional information e-mail Kamesha Gibson at For tickets and more information visit


• May 6-8: The Grace Project
The world’s largest conference for women living with HIV takes place at a hotel in the Coit/LBJ area. For more information contact Angela Huddy at Legacy Counseling Center at or
214-520-6308 ext. 384. Information at

• May 13-14: Contemporary Relationships Conference
Learn and discuss ways to strengthen LGBTQ dating, relationships, and parenting with over 30 international and national speakers from
8 a.m.-5:15 p.m. on May 14. Pre-conference institutes take place May 13. Both events are held at St. David’s Bethell Hall, 301 E. 8th St., Austin. For more information and to register visit or e-mail

• May 14: TAG’S Annual Ball
“007: A Night With Bond,” Tyler Area Gays’ 2016 Annual Ball, features casino tables, cash bar, live music, heavy hors d’oeuvres, silent auction and more. Tickets are $40 in advance, $45 at the bar; student tickets are $35. For tickets and more information visit For information email or call 903-312-2081. 6 p.m.-midnight, at Holiday Inn Tyler South Broadway, 5701 S. Broadway Ave.

• May 21: AIDS Outreach Center Evening of Hope Benefit Gala
Benefits AOC’s services and programs. Cocktails at 6:30 p.m. Dinner at 7:30 p.m. at Worthington Hotel, 200 Main St., Fort Worth.

For tickets and more information call

• May 21: Orange is the New Bingo
Monthly fundraiser for Resource Center takes place 6-9 p.m. the third Saturday of the month at Rose Room at S4, 3911 Cedar Springs Road. Doors open at 5 p.m. For more information, call 214-540-4458 or email

• May 21: Public grand opening LGBT Community Center Resource Center holds an open house at
its new building from 10 a.m.-noon at Cedar Springs and Inwood roads.

• June 3: Metroball
Debbie Gibson and Tiffany headline Metroball, the annual fundraiser for the Greg Dollgener Memorial AIDS Fund. S4, 3911 Cedar Springs Road.

• June 11: Longview Pride

• June 18: Beach Blanket Bingo
Monthly fundraiser for Resource Center takes place 6-9 p.m. the third Saturday of the month at Rose Room at S4, 3911 Cedar Springs Road. Doors open at 5 p.m. For more information, call 214-540-4458 or email

• June 24: Gay Pride Shabbat
Congregation Beth El Binah, a Reform Jewish congregation, celebrates the ancient biblical holiday Gay Pride Shabbat. 7:30 p.m. Northaven United Methodist Church, 11211 Northaven St.

• June 25: Queerbomb Dallas 2016
7 p.m. at RBC, 2617 Commerce. For more information and to volunteer visit

• June 26: Marriage Equality Day
Celebrate the day that love and freedom won. From 4-6 p.m. at Cathedral of Hope,
5910 Cedar Springs Road.


March 26: AIDS Walk South Dallas


The annual 5K walk benefits The Afiya Center and takes place at 8 a.m. the Martin Luther King Jr. Community Center, 2922 MLK Jr. Blvd. Register at

This article appeared in the Dallas Voice print edition March 25, 2016.

—  Kevin Thomas

Fabbing the ’burbs

For some LGBT-ers, life away from the city ain’t bad

RICH LOPEZ | Staff Writer


COUNTRY PRIDE | Cathy Brown, right, and her partner, Stephanie, find a quieter side of life in Lancaster. (Rich?Lopez/Dallas Voice)

The bright lights and big city are undeniably exciting. Whether it’s a new restaurant opening in old East Dallas or a high-rise rising in Uptown, the city’s energy flows at a continuous rate. The hubbub of a city is crucial to an active gay community.

But some people have found a nice refuge outside of the city limits.

Cathy Brown is a familiar face in the community, heading up the chorus and orchestra every Sunday at Cathedral of Hope as its church conductor, or leading the New Texas Symphony Orchestra as artistic director.

The commute to her day job at Cedar Valley College from Oak Cliff wasn’t long, but one day, fate intervened.

“I spotted the house for sale on the way to work one day and fell in love with it,” she says.

The home was a foreclosure mess, but after lots of hard work and elbow grease, Brown and her partner Stephanie turned it into a home worthy of an American family portrait in the southern suburb of Lancaster — with a queer twist. And in a town where the whole “gay thing” could be an issue, Brown has had no problems.

“Much like the rest of our lives, we just live as we do and don’t offer it to be questioned,” she says. “It is not something we broadcast, nor something we hide. We just try to be good neighbors and the overall reaction has been great.”

The couple loves the lush green trees and large lawns in both front and back, and are proud of the white fence they built on the porch.
“We just had to have that for this home,” Stephanie says.

If there’s one drawback to life in the ‘burbs, it’s the dining options.

“There is little variety and non-smoking is non-existent,” Brown grimaces. “Dallas Avenue Diner and Big Bruce’s Bar-B-Que are really good family-owned restaurants, but to have a really nice dinner, we have to drive back into Dallas.”

Daryl Hildebrand and Rudy Lopez went north to find a home in The Colony. North Dallas suburbs usually fall into a Stepford template with cookie-cutter houses and gated communities, but Hildebrand has found some true character in his town.

“The Colony has been good to us for a small town,” he says. “I live in the neighborhood where everyone waves and speaks when you pass by. When you don’t have kids, it’s harder, but we do feel welcomed here.”

That doesn’t mean people haven’t noticed they are gay, but fortunately, it’s “not a thing,” he says. “I don’t think we are the deep, dark, secret in the neighborhood. If you meet us, you would probably guess we are a couple. We are conscious of our surroundings, but never had a reason to feel uncomfortable.”

Dave Cudlipp takes a funny approach to his ‘burb of choice — not a surprise for the member of the Dallas Comedy Conspiracy troupe. He and his partner took up residency in the Mid-Cities.

“We live in Useless, er, Euless, or as they say now Fab-Euless,” he says. “It’s close to work for both of us. We bought a nicer home out here than we could afford in Dallas.”

The two haven’t any qualms about their neighborhood or what people might think. But also, neighbors have been surprised the two are a couple — probably because they both look like members of the Dallas Cowboys.

“It never enters my mind that I am living somewhere as an out person,” he says. “When they meet us, they are very surprised to find out we are a gay couple. Because we’re both big, pretty muscular, masculine guys people usually assume we’re straight. Not that we care what they think but no one has ever said anything negative to us — at least to our faces.”

Brown, Hildebrand and Cudlipp seem to have no regrets: Commutes, neighbors, jobs aren’t as much a factor as just finding a home where the heart is. Although Brown had one problem her city counterparts may never have.

“We’ve experienced regular neighbor issues — loud music, rowdy kids, horses let loose in the front yard.”

Horses? “OK, that only happened once.”

This article appeared in the Dallas Voice print edition June 18, 2010.

—  Dallasvoice