A Couple of Guys • 06-23-17


This article appeared in the Dallas Voice print edition June 23, 2017.

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Resolution solution

Looking for a good way to make a difference? Check out Gay For Good


Gay for Good volunteers work at Promise House. (Courtesy Erin Moore)


Erin Moore  |  Special Contributor
Special to Dallas Voice

With so much loss and tragedy in the world, in the news, in our own communities, people are searching for ways to be nicer to each other. We have become so separate from each other, so distant, that it feels like we truly are isolated.

Facebook gives the illusion of friendship with people we don’t even know. Twitter is a constant barrage of bumper-sticker thoughts that go swirling by without care or consequence. Snapchat and Instagram are temporary “LOOK AT ME..then gone” moments.

But it’s time to make some real connections again. It’s time to make a real difference again. It’s time to remember who we are as a community. Time to volunteer our time again.

When I first started in the Dallas LGBT community, I was part of a group that organized events around National Coming Out Day. Our chosen slogan was “Out Everyday,” to show that we are a vital part of our community, every community. The idea was that we are all in this together.

I am now working with a group called Gay For Good, and it has much the same message.

G4G is an all-volunteer organization that goes out into the so-called straight community and to volunteer one day a month for a local charity. We have done everything from clearing bamboo stands for a trail around Elm Fork to placing flags at veterans’ graves, to sorting clothing at Dress for Success. We volunteer with youth, seniors, veterans, the homeless, animals and for the environment.

It is a no–frills, sweat equity way to invest in our community. We do not ask for, nor do we give money. We give time; we show up and do whatever is needed.

What is perhaps more important than the work we do, though, are the conversations we have while doing it.

During a Habitat for Humanity build, we will converse with the local Baptist church volunteers about our personal stories.

During a visit to a senior home, we will talk with the one gay resident who feels alone. During a visit to Promise House, we will chat with the abandoned youth that feels like she has finally found some footing.

We make a difference in our community, one weekend, once a month.

In this next year — in the next four years — real connection, real impact and real work will matter more and more. Kindness and conversation are our weapons against separation and discrimination. Join us or any other volunteer group and make a difference in that group and with that group.

We need to know each other again and hold our community closer.

Erin Moore is the vice chair of the Dallas/Ft. Worth Chapter of Gay For Good (gayforgood.org/dallas_tx).

This article appeared in the Dallas Voice print edition January 6, 2017

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Editorial Cartoon • 12-16-16


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Teddy Bears help children get through surgery

LGBT party supplies Children’s Health with many of the bears needed each year to comfort kids


The day after the Teddy Bear Party, the bears are delivered to Children’s Medical Center. (Photo courtesy Children’s Health)

DAVID TAFFET  |  Senior Staff Writer

Each of the 30,000 children who come out of surgery each year at Children’s Health have a teddy bear with them. That teddy bear will have a similar operation. And the child and the bear will heal together.

Those teddy bears come from donations and the largest donation of stuffed animals comes from the Teddy Bear Party, which takes place Dec. 3 at 6500, an event space on Cedar Springs Road across from Love Field.
Jason Hanna began the Teddy Bear Party six years ago.


The Teddy Bear Clinic at Children’s Health makes any procedure easier for kids to understand. (Photo courtesy Children’s Health)

“My mom was diagnosed with cancer,” Hanna said. “In honor of what she was going through, we started the Teddy Bear Party because her passion was kids, family and equality.”

So they collected teddy bears and began donating them to Children’s Health, where Hanna’s cousin Mitch Hall works.
Hall explained that the teddy bears aren’t just for the children to cuddle when they’re scared and feeling sick. Although the stuffed animals certainly fill that need well.

“Something as simple as a teddy bear can be incredibly powerful,” Hall said. “It can help to ease a child’s fears, recover from surgery, and understand, cope and heal from their procedures.”

The bears actually go through the procedures the child will experience first in the Teddy Bear Clinic.

“Our amazing team members at Children’s Health use teddy bears to demonstrate and explain surgical procedures and reassure patients,” Hall said. “If the kiddo gets an IV, so does the teddy bear. Patients wake up after their procedures with their teddy bears, and the bears become their best friends, their confidantes — they give them hope and lift their spirits.”

Thresa Belcher, director of child life and social work at Children’s Health, recounted a story of one little girl who was recently admitted to the ICU.

“A lot of invasive medical care happened very quickly and much of it was happening simultaneously,” she said. “There were at least five medical care providers including nurses, doctors and technicians at her bedside. As a child life specialist, I went to the bedside to provide support and help her understand what was happening.”

To keep the girl’s neck stable she needed to have a c-collar put on but it was uncomfortable and she became distraught and scared.

“We discussed a variety of ways to calm down and she said that a stuffed animal would help her,” Belcher said.  “I brought her a stuffed animal who she immediately began to hug close. I also brought a teaching c-collar to allow her to better see what she could feel on her neck but could not see.  She looked at and touched the c-collar and then told me we needed to put it on her bear.  She said the bear was going to wear the c-collar as long she needed to wear her collar.”

Hanna said he likes to think the Teddy Bear Party has come full circle for him.

He and his husband Joe Riggs have two sons who are now in their terrible twos. When one of the boys was nine months old, he had to have a medical procedure and they took him to Children’s. While his son was too young to use the mock hospital, Hanna said the teddy bear he got was certainly comforting. He was clutching it as he went in for treatment and cuddling it when he woke up a few hours later.

Now, at two years old, the bear he go Hanna said he likes to think that the bear his son has is one of the bears that was donated at one of the teddy bear parties.

Since its inception, the Teddy Bear Party has been growing. That small teddy bear collection the first year in honor of his mom grew into a party and an annual memorial to her. The party grew so much from year to year, that until this year, they’ve had to find a new venue for the party because they’d outgrown the previous year’s location. This is the first year the party returns to the same venue for a second year.

Each person attending is asked to make a donation — $50 for general admission and $150 VIP — as well as bring a teddy bear. The cost of the party is underwritten by corporate sponsors, so all donations go to the beneficiaries.

The Teddy Bear Party at 6500, 6500 Cedar Springs Road. VIP at 7 p.m. General admission at 8 p.m. on Dec. 3. $50 online at TeddyBearParty.org. $75 at the door with a teddy bear.

This article appeared in the Dallas Voice print edition December 2, 2016.

—  David Taffet

The devil is in the drag-tails

Comedic ‘Drag Race’ champ Bianca Del Rio returns to Dallas with her Not Today Satan Tour


SCOTT HUFFMAN | Contributing Writer scott_in_dallas@yahoo.com

bianca_reviewFor many — especially in the gay community — Halloween is a much-anticipated free pass to take a walk on the wild side, a safe harbor for experimenting with voluminous wigs, smoky-eye guyliner, ruby-red lipstick and size 12 stilettos. But for Bianca Del Rio (aka Louisiana native Roy Haylock), the pagan celebration is simply another day.

“As a clown, I’m always in costume,” says Del Rio, the champion of Season 6 of RuPaul’s Drag Race. “People ask me, ‘What are you going to be for Halloween?’ I say, ‘A man! A man!’ Every day is Halloween for me. I understand people get excited about it, but I have to do it all the time — it’s not that interesting!”

Make no mistake, though: This Saturday, Del Rio will appear in full headdress and war paint as she brings her latest comedy show — the Not Today Satan Tour — to Dallas’ South Side Music Hall. But what she has in store for her audience is anybody’s guess.

Del Rio plans each of her performances with “a series of Post-It Notes of my hateful thoughts,” she quips. While few topics are off limits, she deliberately avoids current politics in her current standup. (“That’s too easy right now,” she says.) Instead, Del Rio will fill the evening with pet peeves, travel stories and, as one would expect from any insult comic, a fair share of playful barbs.

“It’s not for the fainthearted,” she teases. “I talk a lot of shit. It’s an hour-and-a-half of me bitching about things that I hate and things that don’t make sense to me. What’s interesting is that people often feel the same way I do. It just fascinates me.”

The upcoming stop is not Del Rio’s first visit to Dallas by any stretch. Last year, the drag queen spent 18 days in town (“it was hotter than fuck!”) completing principal photography on Hurricane Bianca, an independent film (produced by local boy Ash Christian) that was recently released digitally and on DVD. The drag-queen-turned-film-star describes the crowdfunded movie, written and directed by her friend Matt Kugelman, as a comedy that tackles a serious LGBT topic.

“In 29 states it’s legal to be fired for being gay,” Del Rio says. “It’s a story about a [gay] schoolteacher who gets fired. He returns as Bianca Del Rio [to get revenge], and nobody knows it’s me!” The film offered Haylock a chance to work in and out of drag with celebrated comedic actors such as Rachel Dratch, Alan Cumming and Margaret Cho. It also features a number of former Drag Race contestants including Alyssa Edwards, Willam Belli, Joslyn Fox and Shangela Laquifa Wadley. Even RuPaul makes a cameo in the film. So, are Del Rio and RuPaul BFFs?

“Oh, hell no!” Del Rio exclaims with a laugh. “She’s not even real. She’s a hologram. We don’t hang out and chat. Michelle Visage and I do quite often; she lives near me in Los Angeles. We go vintage clothes shopping whenever we are on the road together. But [honestly], RuPaul has been unreal — a really kind, generous person and supportive of everything that I do. I’m grateful.”

Despite having both a Drag Race title and a feature-length film under her belt, Del Rio considers time she spent visiting her idol — fellow insult comic Joan Rivers — her proudest accomplishment. Del Rio, after winning RuPaul’s Drag Race, was a guest on Rivers’ internet chat show In Bed with Joan. It was a dream come true. “She was beyond kind and lovely,” Del Rio says of the late legend. “We sat there cackling for over an hour. Just talking shit about everybody. She just kind of fed me the lines and let me roll with it. She was very, very gracious.” It was an amazing destination for someone whose first job in entertainment was designing costumes for the theater.

It was chance — an acting opportunity playing a character in drag — that led to her first club gig. The rest is history. Today, Del Rio is probably more surprised by her drag success than anyone else… well, with the exception of her family, perhaps.

“I’m still the nasty little hateful child that they had,” Del Rio says. “They are shocked that the world thinks this is funny. I’m the fourth out of five [children]. Everything I was told not to do as a child, I am doing now as an adult. It’s quite magical. They’re amazed.”

Not long ago, Del Rio imagined the shelf-life of her drag persona was nearing its natural end. However, the Drag Race title has refreshed her career opportunities. Rather than retiring her wigs and eyelashes, Del Rio now plans to go with the flow.

“I really thought I was going to quit everything at 40,” Del Rio says, now 41. “I had worked every dirty bar I could possibly work. I had done every gay Pride I could possibly do. At 38, I did Drag Race which changed everything for me. I can’t quit now!”

This article appeared in the Dallas Voice print edition October 28, 2016.


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­­On the ballots

Anti-gay tactics still exist, but a record number of LGBT candidates are making an impact across the country

Lisa Keen  |  Keen News Service

EDITOR’S NOTE: Dallas Voice has recently learned that Gary Stuard, Green Party candidate for U.S. House of Representatives, running against Republican incumbent Pete Sessions, is gay. Watch for an interview with him in the Oct. 14 issue of Dallas Voice.
Republican supporters of a Congressional candidate dubbed a “mini-Trump” in Minnesota used a family photo of his Democratic lesbian opponent to draw attention to “her female marriage partner and their four teenage sons.”
Democratic opponents of a gay Republican candidate for sheriff in Arizona ran an ad that claimed, “We can’t trust him with our kids.”
In Oregon, threats and taunts against incumbent Gov. Kate Brown, a bisexual, have escalated in recent months over her calls for tighter gun controls, prompting an increase in her security detail.

And a story in the conservative Des Moines Register characterized Iowa’s openly-gay Republican candidate for the state senate as a 50-year-old man “living with his mom” and described his Democratic opponent as having a “muscular campaign organization.”
But while anti-LGBT sentiments and tactics might still be in evidence these days, there is much to be appreciated for how matter-of-factly the sexual orientation of most LGBT candidates is being regarded.

A record number of LGBT people are running for seats in the U.S. House this year. Of the 12 openly-gay U.S. House candidates, six are incumbents expected to easily win re-election. Of the six newcomers, only one is said to have a good chance at winning.

Add to that at least 21 openly-LGBT people running for state senate seats, 61 running for state house seats, one candidate for governor and four candidates for other statewide offices, at least 53 candidates for local offices and 17 candidates for seats on various state and local courts.

Add them all together for a total of 170 — a new high, compared to 152 in 2012 and 164 in 2010.
Here’s a look at some of the most high-profile races involving LGBT candidates next month:

Oregon Gov. Kate Brown
Brown, who identifies as bisexual, took office in February 2015 when her predecessor resigned amid scandal. She’s considered a safe bet to keep that job. A Portland-based polling firm found her eight points ahead of Republican challenger Bud Pierce in early September.
Brown was previously secretary of state; Pierce was an oncologist.

Despite the good poll numbers though, there have been some troubling moments for Brown this year. Earlier this month, pro-gun demonstrators burned her in effigy, and the Oregonian reports that Brown’s security detail has been increased. The paper reported that someone posted a message on Twitter, calling Brown a “sexually confused progressive” and blaming her for the death of a man who joined a group trying to occupy a federal wildlife refuge in the state. Another threatened an “attack” on her house in response to a ruling by a state labor commissioner who ordered a bakery to pay $135,000 to a same-sex couple for refusing to sell them a wedding cake.

Six new candidates for Congress
In addition to Jim Gray of Kentucky who is running for the U.S. Senate, six LGBT challengers are running for seats in the U.S. House this year. Most of them are considered long shots, but Angie Craig in Minnesota has the best chance of getting there. Her race is polling as a “toss-up,” according to RealClearPolitics.com.

Craig, a vice president of global human resources for a medical devices manufacturer in St. Paul, left that position to run for Minnesota’s 2nd District seat in the U.S. House. Craig’s website bio features a photo of her, her wife, and their four boys.

She’s the Democratic Farmer Labor Party candidate for a seat opened up by retiring Republican John Kline, and she’s running against a former talk show host, Jason Lewis, whose provocative statements prompted The Atlantic magazine to dub him “Minnesota’s mini-Trump.”
Among other things, Lewis has argued that, “Gay couples are no more discriminated against than the polygamist, the drug user, or the loan shark.”

One state GOP official used a photo of Craig’s family to solicit attendance to a Lewis fundraiser, noting that Craig is “liberal and this is her family.  She and her female marriage partner and their four teenage sons.” Gay and Lesbian Victory Fund President Aisha C. Moodie-Mills said Angie Craig’s family photo was used “to attack both her and LGBT families” and that the GOP state official’s decision to do so was “more indicative of the hate her opponent Jason Lewis spreads, than it is of politics for LGBT candidates nationwide.”

Craig has raised almost $1.5 million for her campaign, according to Federal Elections Commission records. Lewis has raised $369,000.

Washington State Rep. Brady Walkinshaw, 32, is running for the state’s 7th District seat in the U.S. House against another progressive Democrat, State Sen. Pramila Jayapal. Jayapal got twice as many votes as Walkinshaw during the primary, but, as one of the top two vote-getters in the nine-person field, Walkinshaw advanced to the general election.

Oklahoma State Sen. Al McAffrey is making a second run for a U.S. House seat to represent Oklahoma’s 5th Congressional District. He won this year’s Democratic primary, despite a recount to challenge his 40-vote margin of victory. But he’s got a tough race now against a well-funded one-term incumbent Republican.

In addition to incumbent U.S. Rep. Kyrsten Sinema, there are two new openly-gay candidates for Congress in Arizona on Nov. 8 — a Republican and a Democrat, running in separate districts.

Former Arizona State Rep. Matt Heinz, an emergency room doctor at Tucson Medical Center, is running for the state’s 2nd Congressional District House seat,  currently held by former Air Force Col. Martha McSally, “the first woman in our nation’s history to pilot a fighter plane in combat and command a fighter squadron.” Heinz is the Democrat. An independent poll released Sept. 26 shows Republican McSally with a 19-point lead.

In Congressional District 1, openly-gay Sheriff Paul Babeu of Pinal County is the Republican, running seven points behind the Democrat for an open seat. Babeu’s campaign seems hobbled by news that he approved of the use of controversial discipline measures against students at a school he ran for at-risk youth in Massachusetts. An attack ad from Democrats focuses on that scandal and says, “We can’t trust him with our kids. How can we trust him in Congress.”

In Connecticut, openly gay Republican Selectman Clay Cope of Sherman, a Texas native and Donald Trump supporter, is out to unseat Democratic incumbent U.S. Rep. Elizabeth Esty, of the state’s 5th Congressional District. Esty earned a perfect score from the Human Rights Campaign for her voting record.

And in Kentucky, openly gay Lexington Mayor Jim Gray, a Democrat, has taken on Republican incumbent U.S. Senator Rand Paul. Gray told the Washington Post that his being gay has not been an issue in the campaign, but he’s also trailing 12 points behind Paul, according to the most recent poll.

Statewide races: old and new
There are some familiar names and some new ones among the 87 known openly LGBT candidates running for statewide offices next month.
In addition to Kate Brown in Oregon, there’s Democrat Tina Podlodowski, a long-time lesbian politico, running to become Washington’s secretary of state. Podlodowski left a successful career at Microsoft in 1995 to win a seat on the Seattle City Council. She’s up against an incumbent Republican.

Toni Atkins is another well-known lesbian politico running for statewide office. She served as California Assembly Speaker of San Diego, but is now running for the seat representing Senate District 39. Because she won more than three times the votes her Republican challenger did in this year’s open primary, Atkins is considered likely to win on Nov. 8.

Daniel Hernandez made headlines five years ago as the openly-gay staffer who helped save the life of U.S. Rep. Gabby Giffords following a mass shooting in Tucson. A Democrat, he’s now running for a state house seat against a Democratic incumbent and a Republican challenger. The top two vote-getters represent the district.

Less well-known is television producer and winter of three Emmys for sports coverage, Beth Tuura, a Democrat who is challenging a Republican incumbent for a House seat representing Orlando, Fla.

And another new name on the horizon is Sam Park, an attorney and the son of Korean immigrants who was born and raised in Georgia. He’s making his first bid for elected office, seeking a seat in the state house.

Local races to watch

Fifty-three openly LGBT candidates are vying for public office in local races, including two candidates for mayor — incumbent Alex Morse in Holyoke, Mass., and Kriss Worthington in Berkeley.

Meanwhile, Berkeley’s first openly-gay black city councilman, Darryl Moore, is fending off a challenge from Nanci Armstrong-Temple, who Bay Area Reporter says identifies as queer.

Next door, in Oakland, two other LGBT candidates are squaring off for one seat on that city’s Council: Oakland mayoral aide Peggy Moore is challenging incumbent Rebecca Kaplan for one of the city’s at-large seats.

Kimberly Alvarenga is running to be the first lesbian in 16 years to serve on the San Francisco Board of Supervisors. And according to the Bay Area Reporter, her election could maintain an important part of LGBT history.

Since 1977, when Harvey Milk was first elected to the Board, “there has been at least one LGBT supervisor,” notes the paper. But new term limits are jeopardizing that trend. Plus current gay board member Scott Wiener is running for the state senate. That leaves lesbian union leader Alvarenga trying to fill the void. She is up against another union leader.

In Texas, Jenifer Rene Pool made history as the first openly transgender person to win a primary in Texas. She defeated a fellow Democrat and took 78 percent of the vote for a seat on the Harris County Commissioners Court in Houston. She’s now running against an incumbent Republican.

Not surprisingly, California has the most openly LGBT candidates (43), followed by Texas and Florida (with nine each), Massachusetts and Georgia (with eight each, and Washington state (with seven). Michigan has four.

“LGBT candidates are running strong races in parts of the country thought unviable just an election cycle or two before,” said Victory Fund’s Moodie-Mills.

Among the more “unviable” states where LGBT candidates are running this year are the solidly conservative Republican states of West Virginia, Montana and Wyoming.

Moodie-Mills said candidates in these more difficult environments “can make an outsized impact on equality if elected in November.”

“Voters are viewing LGBT candidates holistically — so qualified LGBT candidates with the right message can run competitively and win,” she said. “It is rarely easy, but we are making enormous progress, and it upends the narrative that LGBT candidates can only win blue or purple states and districts.”

© 2016 Keen News Service. All rights reserved.

This article appeared in the Dallas Voice print edition October 7, 2016.

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The Gay Agenda • 10-07-16



­­­Have an event coming up? Email your information to Managing Editor Tammye Nash at nash@dallasvoice.com or Senior Staff Writer
David Taffet at taffet@dallasvoice.com by Wednesday at 5 p.m. for that week’s issue.

• Weekly: Lambda Weekly every Sunday at 1 p.m. on 89.3 KNON-FM. This week’s guest is Northaven United Methodist Church’s Eric Folkerth; United Black Ellument hosts discussion on HIV/AIDS in the black community (UBE Connected) at 7 p.m.
every fourth Tuesday of the month at 3116 Commerce St., Suite C; Core Group Meeting every 1st and 3rd Tuesday of the month at 7 p.m.; Fuse game night every Monday evening except the last of the month at 8 p.m. at the Fuse space in the Treymore Building, 4038 Lemmon Ave, Suite 101; FuseConnect every Wednesday from 7 p.m. For more information call or e-mail Jalenzski at 214-760-9718 ext 3 or Jalenzski@myresourcecenter.org.

• Through Oct. 29: Screams
Three haunted houses, Carnevil, clown maze and zombie wasteland. 7:30 p.m.-1:30 a.m. on Friday and Saturday nights at Scarborough Faire site, Waxahachie.

• Oct. 7: A Little Night Music
St. Matthew’s Cathedral, 5100 Ross Ave., presents “A Little Night Music,” featuring the music of Stephen Sondheim and the annual SMCA Silent Auction, benefitting the church’s free public art programs. Tickets are $70 for one, $120 for two, $700 for a table of 10 or $1,000 for a VIP Table of 10. Seating is limited; reserve tickets by calling 214-887-6552.

• Oct. 7: Big Night Out
To raise awareness and support for sexual assault victims from 7:30-11 p.m. at event1013, 1013 E 15th St., Plano.

• Oct. 7: DIFFA cella
Burgers & Burgundy presents a DIFFA fundraiser from 6:30-9:30 p.m. on the Ron Kirk Bridge, 109 Continental Ave. $150.

• Oct. 7: A Little Night Music
An evening of Stephen Sondheim benefitys Saint Matthews Cathedral public arts program at 5:30 p.m. at St. Matthew’s Cathedral, 5100 Ross Ave.

• Oct. 8: National Coming Out Day Sidewalk March
Meet at 10:45 a.m. with PFLAG-Abilene/Big Country and bring Pride flags. Sidewalk march is from 11 a.m.-1 p.m. at the corner of Pine Street and North 1st, Abilene. Facebook.com/groups/pflagbc

• Oct. 8: Texas Latino Gay Pride
Music festival from 2-10 p.m. in Reverchon Park, 3505 Maple Ave.

• Oct. 9: AIDS Arms Lifewalk
LifeWalk returns more money to local LGBT and AIDS organizations in Dallas than any other fundraiser. The walk steps off at noon at Lee Park, 3333 Turtle Creek Blvd.

• Oct. 9: Gay Day at the Fair
The official unofficial Gay Day at the State Fair of Texas is back all day at the State Fair.

• Oct. 10: High Tech Happy Hour
From 5:30-7:30 p.m. at Lakewood Brewing Company, 2302 Executive Drive, Garland.

• Oct. 10: Dance With the Sun
Free one-act play to celebrate LGBT History Month at 7:30 p.m. at Jonsson Performance Hall, JO 2.604, University of Texas–Dallas.

• Oct. 10: Project TAG
Phone Book Recycling Day and have fun at the zoo at 1 p.m. at Caldwell Zoo, 2203 W Martin Luther King Jr. Blvd., Tyler.

• Oct. 10: A Celebration of Rose Pearson
Celebrate the life of Rose Pearson (1947-2016), the founder of Circle Theater, from 6-9 p.m. at Red Oak Ballroom, 304 Houston St., Fort Worth.

• Oct. 11: Kol Nidre service
Congregation Beth El Binah holds Kol Nidre service at 7:30 p.m. at NUMC, 11211 Preston Road.

• Oct. 11: Outrageous Oral 23
Adrian Cooks, Alex Eller and the Rev. Colleen Darraugh are the featured speakers at 7 p.m. at Willis Library, University of North Texas, 1506 W Highland St., Denton.

• Oct. 12: Yom Kippur services
Congregation Beth El Binah holds Yom Kippur services beginning with morning musaf service at 10 a.m. followed by study session, yizkor at 3 p.m., afternoon service at 4 p.m. and neilah service at 5 p.m. followed by break the fast at 6:30 p.m. at NUMC, 11211 Preston Road.

• Oct. 13: Gray Pride
6 p.m. at Resource Center, 5750 Cedar Springs Road.

• Oct. 13: ‘For Once in My Life’
Fort Worth Human Relations Commission presents Movies That Matter. For Once in My Life will be shown at 7 p.m. at the Modern Art Museum of Fort Worth, 3200 Darnell St.,
Fort Worth. Free.

• Oct. 13: Business Connection Mixer
GLBT Chamber presents mixer at 5:30 p.m.
at Sushi Zushi, 3636 McKinney Ave. #150.

• Oct. 14: NTSO Movie Magic Gala
Gala evening of dinner, drinks and entertainment featuring cabaret singer
Angie McWhirter to support the New Texas Symphony Orchestra at 7 p.m. at Sammons Center, Meadows Hall, 3630 Harry Hines Blvd. $100.

• Oct. 14: Oktoberfest High Tech Happy Hour
From 5:30-7:30 p.m. at Lakewood Brewing Company, 2302 Executive Drive, Garland.

• Oct. 14: Lory Masters 70th Birthday Roast
Master of Ceremonies Tim Seelig and comedian Paul J. Williams , friends and community leaders past and present roast community legend Lory Masters from 7-10 p.m. at The Rose Room at S4, 3911 Cedar Springs Road.

• Oct. 14: Rocky Horror Jack-O-Lan-Turnt Halloween Spooktacular
Join Amber Does Dallas for their most anticipated show of the year at midnight at the Angelika Theater, 5321 E. Mockingbird Lane.

• Oct. 14-16: Dallas Fan Days
Comic, sci-fi, horror anime and gaming
event from 4-7 p.m. on Friday, 10 a.m.-7 p.m. on Saturday and 10 a.m.-5 p.m. on Sunday at Irving Convention Center, 500 W. Las Colinas Blvd., Irving.

• Oct. 15: Party for Peggy
Friends of Peggy Drury, a longtime bartender at Jugs and, later, Joe’s Place, invited to a party in her honor from 7-9 p.m., at Liquid Zoo Bar and Grill, 2506 Knight St. The bar is providing sandwiches, chips and dips and there will be a cake, as well. For information, contact Deedee Heart or Norma Jean Featherson on Facebook.

• Oct. 15: American Gothic
Oak Lawn Band presents a free concert at 8 p.m. at Oak Lawn United Methodist Church, 3014 Oak Lawn Ave.

• Oct. 15: Bewitched GayBingo
Monthly fundraiser for Resource Center takes place 6-9 p.m. the third Saturday of the month at Rose Room at S4, 3911 Cedar Springs Road. Doors open at 5 p.m. For more information, call 214-540-4458 or email Bscott@myresourcecenter.org.

• Oct. 15: PrEP Rally
United Black Ellument hosts medical professionals and community volunteers who share their stories about PrEP as Resource Center plans to launch its PrEP clinic. From 2-5 p.m. at Resource Center, 5750 Cedar Springs Road.

• Oct. 15: Porchfest
Peak Addition Neighborhood Association block party and music festival from noon-8 p.m. at 4700 Swiss Ave.

• Oct. 15-16: Old Oak Cliff Conservation League home tour
The city’s oldest and largest home tour. Buy tickets ahead of time for $15. Tickets the day of tour are $25 and can be purchased at Bishop and 8th streets in the Bishop Arts District. Money benefits Oak Cliff neighborhood improvement projects.

• Oct 16: LGBT Square Dancing
Pegasus Squares holds open house and dance lessons from 3-5 p.m. at Dallas School of Burlesque, 2924 Main St #103.



Friends of Peggy Drury, pictured here, left, with her longtime boss and friend the late Joe Elliott, are invited to attend a party in her honor Saturday, Oct. 15, from 7-9 p.m. at Liquid Zoo Bar and Grill, 2506 Knight St. See listings for details.

This article appeared in the Dallas Voice print edition October 7, 2016.

—  Dallasvoice

The Gay Agenda • 03-25-16



Have an event coming up? Email yourinformation to staff writer James Russell at russell@dallasvoice.com by Thursday at 10 a.m.
for that week’s issue.

• Weekly: Lambda Weekly every Sunday at 1 p.m. on 89.3 KNON-FM with marriage and family therapist  guest Damon L. Jacobs discussing PreP; United Black Ellument hosts discussion on HIV/AIDS in the black community at 7 p.m. every second Tuesday of the month at 3116 Commerce St., Suite C; Fuse game night every Monday evening but the last of the month at 8 p.m. at the Fuse space in the ilume, 4123 Cedar Springs Road, Apt 2367; Fuse Connect every Wednesday from 7 p.m. at the Fuse Space. For more information call or e-mail Ruben Ramirez at 214-540-4500 or rramirez@myresourcecenter.org.

• March 26: AIDS Walk South Dallas
5K walk benefits The Afiya Center at 8 a.m. at Martin Luther King Jr. Community Center, 2922 MLK Jr. Blvd. Register at AIDSWalkSouthDallas.com.

• March 27: Easter in Lee Park
Easter in the Park is back celebrating its 50th anniversary. Pooch Parade, bonnet contest, music and more. 1-4 p.m. Lee Park,
3333 Turtle Creek Blvd.

• March 31: Transgender Day of Visibility

• April 1: Compassion Fatigue SymposiumEduCare presents the fifth annual
Compassion Fatigue Symposium sponsored by organizations including Lambda Legal and AIDS Arms from 8:15 a.m.-5 p.m. at Lovers Lane United Methodist Church, 9200 Inwood Road. $30 early bird registration. $35 after March 1. Registration closes March 29.

• April 2: Gay and Lesbian Fund for Dallas Project Ruffway Benefit
Gay and Lesbian Fund for Dallas benefiting the SPCA of Texas includes cocktails, hors d’oeuvres, a DJ spinning the latest music, a silent auction, and a fashion show with models and their dogs wearing the Spring 2016 line. 7-10 p.m. at the Jan Rees-Jones Animal Care Center in Dallas, 2400 Lone Star Drive. For tickets and more information visit SPCA.org/GLFD.

• April 5: Woman to Woman 2016 Luncheon
Benefit for Jewish Family Service with guest speaker Goldie Hawn at Hyatt Regency Dallas, 300 Reunion Blvd. For more information call 972-437-9950 ext. 259 or visit JFSdallas.org/woman.

• April 9: Pups and Pints Benefit for Paws in the City
Benefit for adoption and animal welfare group from 3-6 p.m. at Deep Ellum Brewing Company, 2823 St. Louis St. $20 per person gets you a pint glass and 3 beer tickets.

• April 9: Walk a Mile in Her Shoes
Men’s march to stop rape, sexual assault and gender violence benefits the Dallas County Sexual Assault Coalition from 9 a.m.-noon beginning and ending on the Continental Pedestrian Bridge.

• April 9-May 30: Scarborough Renaissance Festival
Scarborough Faire features 200 quaint shoppes, food and grog from around the world, swordplay, comedy, birds of prey, magic and more. Weekends from 10 a.m.-7 p.m. at Scarborough Village, 2511 FM 66, Waxahachie.

• April 10: Oak Cliff Earth Day
Booths, exhibits, demonstrations. Free. Noon to 5 p.m. in Lake Cliff Park in the Demonstration Rose Garden, Colorado and Zang boulevards. The Oak Cliff Street car is free and runs every 30 minutes from Union Station to Lake Cliff Park.

• April 15: North Texas GLBT Chamber of Commerce Celebration of Excellence
Eleventh annual event honors awards in business excellence and to legislative champions at Renaissance Dallas Hotel,
2222 N. Stemmons Fwy.

• April 16: Gaybingo
Monthly fundraiser for Resource Center takes place 6-9 p.m. the third Saturday of the month at Rose Room at S4, 3911 Cedar Springs Road. Doors open at 5 p.m. For more information, call 214-540-4458 or email Bscott@myresourcecenter.org.

• April 16: Oak Lawn Band presents ‘Storytellers’
Music from movies, theater, children’s folk tales and more. 3 p.m. at Oak Lawn United Methodist Church, 3014 Oak Lawn Ave.

• April 22: FashionCited turns 10
Designers Jonathan Aparicio, Petit Atelier, Edo Popken of Switzerland, Mario Alberto and others showcase their collections on celebrity models benefiting Legal Hospice of Texas. From 8-11 p.m. at Frontiers of Flight Museum, 6911 Lemmon Ave.

• April 25-May 1: National Black Transmen Conference
Fifth annual National Black Trans Advocacy Conference and awards gala. The Dallas/Addison Marriott Quorum, 14901 Dallas Parkway.

• April 22: 10th Annual FashionCITED Show
Annual fashion show and fundraiser for Legal Hospice of Texas. 8 p.m. at Frontiers of Flight Museum, 6911 Lemmon Ave., Dallas. For additional information e-mail Kamesha Gibson at kamesha@legalhospice.org For tickets and more information visit Bit.ly/1DGAphZ.


• May 6-8: The Grace Project
The world’s largest conference for women living with HIV takes place at a hotel in the Coit/LBJ area. For more information contact Angela Huddy at Legacy Counseling Center at angela@legacycounseling.org or
214-520-6308 ext. 384. Information at legacygraceproject.org.

• May 13-14: Contemporary Relationships Conference
Learn and discuss ways to strengthen LGBTQ dating, relationships, and parenting with over 30 international and national speakers from
8 a.m.-5:15 p.m. on May 14. Pre-conference institutes take place May 13. Both events are held at St. David’s Bethell Hall, 301 E. 8th St., Austin. For more information and to register visit Bit.ly/1tZKyke or e-mail info@contemporaryrelationships.com.

• May 14: TAG’S Annual Ball
“007: A Night With Bond,” Tyler Area Gays’ 2016 Annual Ball, features casino tables, cash bar, live music, heavy hors d’oeuvres, silent auction and more. Tickets are $40 in advance, $45 at the bar; student tickets are $35. For tickets and more information visit TylerAreaGays.com. For information email info@TylerAreaGays.com or call 903-312-2081. 6 p.m.-midnight, at Holiday Inn Tyler South Broadway, 5701 S. Broadway Ave.

• May 21: AIDS Outreach Center Evening of Hope Benefit Gala
Benefits AOC’s services and programs. Cocktails at 6:30 p.m. Dinner at 7:30 p.m. at Worthington Hotel, 200 Main St., Fort Worth.

For tickets and more information call

• May 21: Orange is the New Bingo
Monthly fundraiser for Resource Center takes place 6-9 p.m. the third Saturday of the month at Rose Room at S4, 3911 Cedar Springs Road. Doors open at 5 p.m. For more information, call 214-540-4458 or email Bscott@myresourcecenter.org.

• May 21: Public grand opening LGBT Community Center Resource Center holds an open house at
its new building from 10 a.m.-noon at Cedar Springs and Inwood roads.

• June 3: Metroball
Debbie Gibson and Tiffany headline Metroball, the annual fundraiser for the Greg Dollgener Memorial AIDS Fund. S4, 3911 Cedar Springs Road.

• June 11: Longview Pride

• June 18: Beach Blanket Bingo
Monthly fundraiser for Resource Center takes place 6-9 p.m. the third Saturday of the month at Rose Room at S4, 3911 Cedar Springs Road. Doors open at 5 p.m. For more information, call 214-540-4458 or email Bscott@myresourcecenter.org.

• June 24: Gay Pride Shabbat
Congregation Beth El Binah, a Reform Jewish congregation, celebrates the ancient biblical holiday Gay Pride Shabbat. 7:30 p.m. Northaven United Methodist Church, 11211 Northaven St.

• June 25: Queerbomb Dallas 2016
7 p.m. at RBC, 2617 Commerce. For more information and to volunteer visit On.fb.me/1Pf81HZ.

• June 26: Marriage Equality Day
Celebrate the day that love and freedom won. From 4-6 p.m. at Cathedral of Hope,
5910 Cedar Springs Road.


March 26: AIDS Walk South Dallas


The annual 5K walk benefits The Afiya Center and takes place at 8 a.m. the Martin Luther King Jr. Community Center, 2922 MLK Jr. Blvd. Register at AIDSWalkSouthDallas.com.

This article appeared in the Dallas Voice print edition March 25, 2016.

—  Kevin Thomas

Fabbing the ’burbs

For some LGBT-ers, life away from the city ain’t bad

RICH LOPEZ | Staff Writer  lopez@dallasvoice.com


COUNTRY PRIDE | Cathy Brown, right, and her partner, Stephanie, find a quieter side of life in Lancaster. (Rich?Lopez/Dallas Voice)

The bright lights and big city are undeniably exciting. Whether it’s a new restaurant opening in old East Dallas or a high-rise rising in Uptown, the city’s energy flows at a continuous rate. The hubbub of a city is crucial to an active gay community.

But some people have found a nice refuge outside of the city limits.

Cathy Brown is a familiar face in the community, heading up the chorus and orchestra every Sunday at Cathedral of Hope as its church conductor, or leading the New Texas Symphony Orchestra as artistic director.

The commute to her day job at Cedar Valley College from Oak Cliff wasn’t long, but one day, fate intervened.

“I spotted the house for sale on the way to work one day and fell in love with it,” she says.

The home was a foreclosure mess, but after lots of hard work and elbow grease, Brown and her partner Stephanie turned it into a home worthy of an American family portrait in the southern suburb of Lancaster — with a queer twist. And in a town where the whole “gay thing” could be an issue, Brown has had no problems.

“Much like the rest of our lives, we just live as we do and don’t offer it to be questioned,” she says. “It is not something we broadcast, nor something we hide. We just try to be good neighbors and the overall reaction has been great.”

The couple loves the lush green trees and large lawns in both front and back, and are proud of the white fence they built on the porch.
“We just had to have that for this home,” Stephanie says.

If there’s one drawback to life in the ‘burbs, it’s the dining options.

“There is little variety and non-smoking is non-existent,” Brown grimaces. “Dallas Avenue Diner and Big Bruce’s Bar-B-Que are really good family-owned restaurants, but to have a really nice dinner, we have to drive back into Dallas.”

Daryl Hildebrand and Rudy Lopez went north to find a home in The Colony. North Dallas suburbs usually fall into a Stepford template with cookie-cutter houses and gated communities, but Hildebrand has found some true character in his town.

“The Colony has been good to us for a small town,” he says. “I live in the neighborhood where everyone waves and speaks when you pass by. When you don’t have kids, it’s harder, but we do feel welcomed here.”

That doesn’t mean people haven’t noticed they are gay, but fortunately, it’s “not a thing,” he says. “I don’t think we are the deep, dark, secret in the neighborhood. If you meet us, you would probably guess we are a couple. We are conscious of our surroundings, but never had a reason to feel uncomfortable.”

Dave Cudlipp takes a funny approach to his ‘burb of choice — not a surprise for the member of the Dallas Comedy Conspiracy troupe. He and his partner took up residency in the Mid-Cities.

“We live in Useless, er, Euless, or as they say now Fab-Euless,” he says. “It’s close to work for both of us. We bought a nicer home out here than we could afford in Dallas.”

The two haven’t any qualms about their neighborhood or what people might think. But also, neighbors have been surprised the two are a couple — probably because they both look like members of the Dallas Cowboys.

“It never enters my mind that I am living somewhere as an out person,” he says. “When they meet us, they are very surprised to find out we are a gay couple. Because we’re both big, pretty muscular, masculine guys people usually assume we’re straight. Not that we care what they think but no one has ever said anything negative to us — at least to our faces.”

Brown, Hildebrand and Cudlipp seem to have no regrets: Commutes, neighbors, jobs aren’t as much a factor as just finding a home where the heart is. Although Brown had one problem her city counterparts may never have.

“We’ve experienced regular neighbor issues — loud music, rowdy kids, horses let loose in the front yard.”

Horses? “OK, that only happened once.”

This article appeared in the Dallas Voice print edition June 18, 2010.

—  Dallasvoice