NOM would correct this sort of thing. If they weren’t willful deceivers, that is.

This is the latest comment posted to the National Organization For Marriage’s official Facebook page:

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Now, this stuff about a faith leader being hauled to jail is obviously untrue. The organized pro-equality movement is seeking CIVIL marriage equality only. As in period. As in that’s it. As in we want churches to have the right to make their own decisions when it comes to the ancillary component of religious marriage ceremony, the same way they are currently free to choose with heterosexuals (e.g. with interfaith couples, atheists, non-members, members in bad standing, or anyone else who falls outside of the church’s faith parameters for any sort of reason).

But while this comment is prominently posted to NOM’s Facebook wall, and while it’s the sort of thing that is regurgitated incessantly by both official and unofficial NOM allies, you will NEVER hear anyone from Team We Control This Nation’s Ring Fingers step in and correct the misinformation. Not Brian brown. Not Maggie Gallagher. Not Robert George. No on. Because they want this sort of fallacy out there. They need these sort of untruths to be out there. Out of the ten billion and six things that are frustrating about the organized anti-equality movement, the deliberate actuality-obfuscation just might be the most annoying.

I once read a tell-all book about “Saturday Night Live,” in which one of the female writers from the early days of the show, Anne Beatts, described the gender disparity in 1970s, pre-Tina Fey comedy writing rooms by saying that “[the men] had to spell ‘cat,’ and [the women] had to say when the Edict of Nantes was revoked.” It’s a comment that ably sums up how I feel about the gay vs. anti-gay debate. Whereas our side prides itself on cogent arguments and throughly researched bullet points, our opposition (and far too much of the public) feels like it’s perfectly suitable to counter those carefully studied, thoroughly lawful, intensely measured, highly principled points by using rhetoric that ranges from red herring to abject lie, with 99% of the anti-LGBT data supported only by personal faith and not actual documentation. And whereas the pro-fairness side is far more concerned about correcting misstatements and self-checking our movement for flaws, the anti-fairness crew has placed their organizational premium on blind eyes and negligent mouths.

We’re beyond sick of fighting this marriage fight. But honestly, we’re almost sicker at the way we are painted as the big, bad, mean immoral, deceptive squad, when it’s the opposition that brands us with that label who makes Pinocchio look as if he had an aggressive nose job by comparison!




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—  John Wright

Tonight, 6PM: Get to know Paul Hodes in a Homo-textual sort of way

- Because his Republican opponent, Kelly Ayotte, is opposed to gay adoption rights

- Because New Hampshire is a marriage equality state, and we need to protect that

- Because he’s a House co-sponsor of both inclusive ENDA and the Respect for Marriage Act (designed to repeal DOMA)

- Because he vocally supports Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell repeal

- Because you miss Celia Hodes on “Weeds,” and the candidate’s shared last name will give you a sweet reminder

- Because of this line: “Today, he’s asked us to let our readers know that he’d like anyone who was considering donating to his campaign during this live blogging session, instead donate to the No on 1 campaign in Maine [supporting marriage equality].

Screen Shot 2010-09-15 At 5.11.02 PmWhatever your reasoning, please join this site, AMERICABlog, Pam’s House Blend, Bilerico Project, and Open Left tonight at 6PM ET, when we host a live chat with candidate for U.S. Senate, Rep. Paul Hodes (D-NH). It’ll all go down right here:



Paul Hodes For Senate




Good As You

—  John Wright